Yea, so i've met this amazing girl through a few of my other friends, the problem is, they all like her as well. Anyway, I quickly become really, really good friends with her and yeah, its apparant that ive fallen way too deep into the friend zone. My problem now is to try and get out of the zone without losing the friendship.
My other problem is that I'm asian, i know, alone thats not a big deal, but the friends that introduced me to her are all AZN!! Most of which that look like me and what i'm afraid of is that I'm too simalur to the rest of them.
GA! HELP!
2006-09-24 18:58:14 · 15 answers · asked by Pie Man 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
spend more time with her than the others do...and get her to like u....the trick is to find out the stuff that interests her in a guy...and talk to her about those things..impress her...show her what a nice guy u r...and abt the looks..lol well do something to urself that makes u stand out more...like for ex...ur dressing style..etc....do somethign for her...but if shes like a player type who will like u AND ur friends..then forget it she aint worth ur time..remember..always go for the ones who r worth it :)
2006-09-24 20:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by sneha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! STOP!!!!!!!! Don't tell her how you feel! That's about the worst thing you can do! It will instantly decrease your chances with her, probably to the point of ruining them! If there is any hope at all, here is an outline of what you need to do:
1) If you do not have her number yet, get it.
2) Call once in a while, but not for long. Call when you're sure she will answer, and do not leave messages or call more than once per day (otherwise you might say too much and have nothing to talk about on the date).
3) Start asking her to go places with you, preferably alone.
4) Avoid contact with her as much as possible between dates for several weeks. You may have to wean her off your presence because you've been hanging out too much with her (from the sound of it).
If she likes you, she will probably respond to this behavior. Good luck!
2006-09-25 03:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"funeral music playing..." Friendzone, the compliment of death for a relationship. Hmm women respond to body language & curiosity.
Seriously, don't slouch, be confident & make her laugh.
Often they go for the more aggressive and/or the more hmm mysterious? Great answers here & yes indulge her in the hobbies she likes.
Start dressing up a little more...not too much. Then slowly? try invading her zone. Maybe put an arm around her...or touch her hand. See what she does...
Also be yourself. The more she knows about you, your likes & dislikes...you become more human. Suddenly in the middle of her shopping, she's thinking about the funny story you told her about your grandpa...or your grandmothers favorite color... (yeah that's lame
but you get the point.)
Be fun, optimistic, uplifting & adventurous. Be so original how can she want copies?
Good luck brother,
2006-09-25 03:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noone is ever similar with someone. Even twins have their own differences so don't ever think that you are simlar with your friends just becuase they are Asians like you.
As for your problem, if you are open to your friends that you also like her as well, then I can see no problem with that. It's like the ever so popular cliche "May the best man win". It would make it easier if you tell them that you are also intersted in the girl they are interested in before you make your move otherwise, if you do make a move without them knowing, you will look like some backstabbing geek. Just tell them casually. If they reacted quite sarcastically and they let you out of the group just because of that, then they really are not your friends.
Just be open to all possibilities. Be yourself. Act natural. Never pretend. Make your move and see what happens after. But be acceptable to all the things that might come your way because of your move.
2006-09-25 03:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by pRoFouNd PrOfunDiTy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROFL sucks for u.. friend zone is almost completely impossible to get out of unless u have a character breakthrough .. and the whole asian thing... yeah im asian too.. set urself apart from em thats how u survive in this world.. suck at math and do well in english or seomthing or stop wearing polos n jeans and wear something different
2 cents
2006-09-25 03:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by joey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I think. This has happenned to me too and how it develops really depends on whether the girl finds you attractive as well as if she can develop feelings for you over time. Here are a couple of experiences I've had:
When I was in high school, there was this girl I really liked and we became really close friends. Problem is she just wasn't attracted to me, and over time I realized that we didn't really have much in common anyways so it was for the best.
I've since worked on my appearance, so I'm now more attractive to girls, and I meet more girls that flirt with me and such. Anyway, a couple years ago I met this girl through work. At first I didn't think of going out with her, but over time I started to like her "in that way" and realized I had a lot in common with her. Lately we've been hanging out outside of work and she's been dropping lots of hints such as complimenting me on my looks, hugging me, inviting herself over to my place, laughing at my jokes etc etc. So this can happen too.
As far as you being Asian -- some Asians can look quite attractive -- there was an Asian guy at my high school that all the girls liked a lot, and I've dated Asian girls myself (I'm white). It's mainly a matter of how you wear your hair, your clothes and your attitude that makes you attractive.
Hope that helps!
2006-09-25 03:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to get out of friend zone anyway. Love grows from trust and friendship all the time and from that look doesnt matter much anymore.Beside, that's the one will last.
2006-09-25 03:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey im azn 2 but that doesn't mean i can't be unique from my group of azn friends... n the whole friend zone thing? the only way to get yourself out of it is to tell her. you don't want her to find out from someone else that you like her or by the way you act...
find ur uniqueness... =)
2006-09-25 03:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go to her and tell her how you feel . forget about the other guys and be yourself. girls want guys will tell them how they feel about them in their face and don't like guys who play things around or try to give them the message. { forget your AZN friends all they want is fun and bets i think you are far more serious about the matter for it to be bothering you.] go to the girl tell her how you feel, neglect your friends and you'll feel better.
2006-09-25 03:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by reality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go upto her-Tell her.
And looks etc , wont matter in the long run..
The 2 of you hit it of well and thats about it .
Go for it man !
2006-09-25 02:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋