How would you react if your girlfriend tells you she's a virgin and three years later she reveals she isn't?

Question

I mean, I didn't ask for it, but when we recently met she volunteered the information. She acted and didn't want any sex until marriage.

It feels as if all this time she really was a virgin and now she lost it to other man. It feels like cheating.

Any advice?

Answer 1

It's kind of like buying a used car based on what the salesman told you:

Well you thought you were buying a jaguar and it turns out you were buying a chevy.

It is grounds for divorce, since she wasn't honest about it.

Answer 2

wow that is kind of weird. There are two explanations.
1. Maybe she just said she was a virgin when you first started dating because she didn't want you to think less of her. Maybe after 3 years she thinks you forgot.
or
2. She was cheating on you because she said she was and now is not.
My advice to you is to tell her that you are majorly confused about the whole situation because she said she was 3 years ago. I honestly think that the only way you can resolve issues is if you communicate and talk things out.
As far as my reactions well it should not matter that much because i mean you guys have been dating for 3 years why should being a virgin really matter at this point.

Answer 3

Bro, if you believe in honesty within a relationship then she clearly violated that. I'm not telling you to brake up with her (that's your decision). All I know is I would have a hard time trusting everything she has ever told you and everything she will tell you in the future now that she clearly lied. Personally I would have a hard time continuing the relationship now that you no longer have that bond.

Answer 4

i,m assuming she reveals now she wasn,t or she isn,t now?but however,yall need to be on jerry springer,listen young man,i see this girl is on her thang,meaning playing you with head smarts.Probably know your little hormones are raging when around her,then to could be something she feels for now of waiting til wedded,have you ever sat her down and really talked with her on how you feel for her,what direction shes headed,and talk about yours but it ain,t cheating or if it something you ain,t shareing,(not tying to be rude,but you must be a ladies man,in ways of disrespting in simple ways when together or with your hommies,too something you are doing alot of or isn,t doing enough of?and what ever you do when doing such wear protection,please!wish you luck.

Answer 5

Maybe you and her had a good thing going, and she didnt want to ruin the relationship. Talk to her, and ask if her encounters were during the relationship, or before. If it happened during the relationship, that would cause me to outrage!

Answer 6

I would just ask her why she had to lie to u..there was no need in her lying to you..unless she was a whore or something...i would be upset too....I mean it's not cheating if you guy's wasn't together...when she lost it..but if she is going to lie about something like that...what else is she going to lie to u about or has lied to you about...good luck

Answer 7

if your relationship was good before she told you then get over it. it was kind of a crappy thing for her to do, but everyone makes mistakes. maybe she loves you and didnt want to keep that a secret anymore.

Answer 8

She must have had a good reason. Find out and your relationship will become deeper.

Answer 9

Well,does virgin really matters?Does it make a big deal?do they ask us guy wheater we are still `virgin`? come on..take it or dump it.life goes on

Answer 10

Well, she was probably afraid you would react badly. She loves you, and if she lost you, it would probably crush her. So she withheld this info. Forgive her. She wanted you to love her, and if you do, you will let it go.