I went out with my girlfriend for 4 years and i loved her. I really did. We lived together too. I moved miles away from my friends and family to be with her. To be honest i found it really hard and couldnt find a job for a while. It was a mutual decision we just thought it best to part ways. See we both wanted to see how things went separately for a while. We still communicate and all that and its great. I have had new girlfriends since but have found that i still like speaking to her and think i want to ask her if she still feels the same but because i did leave her i dont know how she feels. Im scared to ask but she says she misses me. I know shes not with anyone else but i dont know what she expected from me and we got into all the silly arguments that couples do money time interests outside of the relationship. She complained when i wouldn't come to bed because i was finding it hard but i dont think she understood i was worried and homesick. Now we are far apart and i want her bac
2006-09-24 18:35:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes it's the distance and separation that makes you realize how much you want and need each other. Separation can bring things into perspective. Now that you've both had an opportunity to see what life would be like without each other, you may both realize how much you really need each other.
Ever hear the saying "Absence makes the heart fonder"?
The fact that you still talk, and she says she misses you also says something for the 2 of you. How would you feel about leaving your family and friends again to be with her? Would it be any different this time around? Would it be possible for her to move?
Don't wait 'til it's too late.
Just bite the bullet and tell her how you feel!
2006-09-24 19:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by romantic_f_mich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, gather up your courage and ask her face to face how she feels. If she misses your relationship, maybe you can start slowly and try not living together this time. Living together often adds stress to the relationship. Dating is a much better way to start. Don't continue dating your current girlfriend if you are still having feelings for your ex. You need to deal with one relationship at a time. Sounds like you need some time to get yourself together before entering into any relationship, otherwise you will just continue to have the same problems.
2006-09-25 01:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want her back, you HAVE to tell her honey. There is no easier way around this. It's obvious she's still feeling the same. If you don't act, someone else is bound to at one point or another and then where are you going to be. Suck it up, tell her you love her, you miss her and that you are willing to work at this. Then do it! She sounds as if she could be your soul mate...don't miss out on that because of fear. If you don't tell her, you'll never know and you'll go through life wondering "what if". It happens all the time sweetie...don't be one of those people.
2006-09-25 01:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,she all ready made a move by saying she misses you.You tell her the same and a lot of *** kissing staff.Just be strong and go after what you really want.It sounds like you both needed some time apart.It took me a whole year to say yes to my husband.He never gave up,he got what he wanted.
2006-09-25 01:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can act now or spend forever not knowing, tell her you made a mistake leaving, but for it to work in the future you must be able to share your worries, even if she doesnt want to try again at least you will know that its time to move on but you should always follow your heart, lifes too short to be unhappy....good luckxx
2006-09-25 03:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like her, likes you. Maybe its ment to be but your afraid to do it because your afriad of the fact you'll lose her.
Just tell her that you really still love you
One of two things will happen:
She will say she still loves you too
Or she won't (Which is what you need to get on with your life)
If u don't youll have regrets.
2006-09-25 01:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by AllKnowingWizardxD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a MAN,just tell her how you feel,if she doesn't want to get back with you,say a friendly goodbye,if she does,then put a lot more effort into the relationship.Good luck.
2006-09-25 02:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should so tell her you want her back! what if she doesnt want to tell you she still wants you because you left her. maybe she still loves you but she doesnt want to say anything because by leaving you made it clear that you didnt need her in your life.
my bf left too, i miss him sooo much! but i will never tell him that. because he left, he made the decision to leave me. and if he ever wants me back he knows where he can find me. i still love him.
maybe she feels the same way as i do and shes just hurt cuz you left her??????
2006-09-25 02:17:53 · answer #8 · answered by datgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel. This guy did it to me 6 years ago and I wish he would have said it before I married a guy and got divorced. By the time he did say it, it was to late
2006-09-25 01:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by angelofhell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to move backwards? If it didn't work the first time, what makes you think it's going to work the second? Move on.
2006-09-25 01:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋