I am in a dilemma.
I study nutrition science/biomedicine at a very good university and I am looking forward to working in research when I get my M.Sc. I will be 26 when that day comes.
However, I also want to have children before the age of 30, and I certainly do not want some day-care center to raise them.
I'm on the verge of giving up my career plans, because none of my fellow students share that need for a family and adviced me to give up one or the other.
Say I will have two children, and want to take care of them for 3 years each....that could sum up to about 6 years of not working. who would employ me after such a long break??
How is it possible to fit both my career and a happy family into my life?
Have you done it?do you know anyone that has?
I'd love to hear some personal experience!
2006-09-24 18:34:57 · 6 answers · asked by Milka 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It's irrational to give up your education at this point for the POSSIBILITY of having a family. From the field that you've chosen, it sounds like you're fairly intelligent, so I hope you're already married if you're considering giving up. Right now, you are on a great career track. What happens if your life plan does not work out the way you want it to? What happens if 1) You don't find a guy that's right for you (that happens to highly educated women) 2) Settle anyway for the sake of having a family and then divorce, leaving you with young children and no earning power or your own cash or 3) a combination of all of the above. You will be SOL.
Bottom line: You are young. We all make plans, but very few of our lives turn out exactly the way we've planned them. Many of us turn out much better for it. Stay in school. Be the best that you can be so that you can contribute to a meaningful relationship and be prepared to land on your feet should your relationship take a downward turn.
2006-09-24 20:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by SedaCanela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's alot to consider. As best as you try to plan life it doesn't always turn out like you would like it to. Are you married? Plan on being a single mom? How are you going to support these kids? Pregnancies don't always come along when you like them to. Sometimes it takes years of trying. School is a good thing to have for now or the future. You could always get a part time job, or a job on one weekend day, or even volunteer somewhere to keep your skills up. If something happened in the future where you needed a good job to support your family, then you could. You would also make some contacts for the future. My advice, get your degree, get married, get settled, then have kids.
2006-09-24 18:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many of us who do both, it is hard at first, but usually it is completely necessary. I know my family depends on my income as one person working can not make enough to survive here.
It does not also need to be all one or the other. I took a couple of years off and then went back to work. I also have worked, gone to school and had my kids all at the same time, and when I was a single mom, I worked two jobs and had happy kids. For me, my mom helped watch them.
Its a busy life but completely fine.
2006-09-24 18:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by inzaratha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Chosen career seems to not allow time out for raising a Familiy!
It is Possible to Sustain this Idea!
But the strain and Stress on the Child, You and Your Partner could prove too much to cope with!
Children are Great!
And having them, raising them and Loving Them to maturity should be taken Very Seriously!
2006-09-24 18:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TIME A CHANCE HAPPEN TO US ALL, IT IS BAD TO ACT BE FOR THE TIME AND JUST AS BAD AFTER THE TIME. YOU MUST DO WHAT YOU CAN TODAY WHILE IT IS CALL TODAY , LIFE IS TO SHORT TO WAST IT SO IS THE MIND. YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT PLACE AND RIGHT TIME KEEP ON THE GOOD FOOT. YOU MUST A GOAL THIS IS THE KEY, KEEP WITH IT, WATCH IT, PROCESS IT, LIFE IS YOURS. ANYTHING GOOD IN LIFE YOU MUST PAY FOR IT. I HEARD A STORY ABOUT A MAN DIGING FOR GOLD ,HE DIGG MANY HOLE IN HIS LIFE AND HE SAID TO HIM SELF I BEEN DIGGING IN THIS HOLE NOW ABOUT A MONTH. SO MANY FEET AND I AM NOT GETTING ANYWHERE I'LL JUST STOP AND COUNT MY LOST, SO HE GAVE UP JUST AS HE SAID HE WOULD AND WENT HOME. ANOTHER MAN CAME ALONG SOME DAYS LATER JUMP IN THE SAME HOLE THE OTHER MAN GAVE UP. AND DIG TWO MORE FEET DOWN AND HIT THE MOTHER LOAD. DO THE MATH-----------GOD BLESS
2006-09-24 19:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by bbypr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to make a risk for something that you want so bad. The results will come in time. I'd try not to worry about work to much.
2006-09-24 18:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by Exile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋