I was with a man for 3 years. We had some rough times. Now he is in the military. We see each other when he comes in and we still have a good bond but a hard time communicating our frustrations with each other. We have been broke up for a bout 2 1/2 years but we still see each other when he comes in. We also have a 3 year old son together. I am still very much in love with him. He is not seeing anyone else. I want to know how to tell him I want to be with him. And I want to figure out how to make it work.
2006-09-24 18:23:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Speak from your heart and also because you have a son together you should be married. Give the child a good solid upbringing, that is yours and this mans job since you went through the actions of wanting to make a baby...you should want to be together to give the baby the best upbringing it can possibly have. You both have to work on your issues together and find ways to make it a plus for the two of you. Talk as much as you can and agree to compromises and really follow through.
2006-09-24 18:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Anna
3 yrs is a long time to spend with someone... I guess you will never get rid of the happy times you shared together.
What's impt I guess is for you to figure out if you truely still love you rather than feel the way you do from the spillover happy times you had.
Ok, say you think you wanna make it work. The key is to make time together. You've gotta start spending more time getting to know him again and all, then you'll find out how true your feelings are.
Good luck!
2006-09-25 01:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can just be honest with him,it isnt like you dont know him the two of you share a child together so you have history together so you can just tell him that you and he really need to talk and just tell him whats in your heart the right words will come to you it may be a little awkward but like I said the words will come to you.
2006-09-25 01:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him that you still have feelings for him and you want him as a more permanent person in your life. See how it goes and what he says...if you're the mother of his child, and he still sees you when he comes in...chances are that he's strongly attracted to you still. As for making a relationship work...for that you need lots of love, attention, nurturing, understanding, compassion and affection.
2006-09-25 01:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 99% of Military Men mess around... even the ones you think they would never do it.......they do... so be careful what you wish for..it's hard these days to find a good guy
2006-09-25 02:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anna, the best way is to tell him that you still love him! Don't waste time, if you can't tell him now, then youmight not be able to tell him at all. You will lose nothing in this situation. Good luck!
2006-09-25 01:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by lette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you still love him and take it from there. Don't think about planning this or planning that. Just take it day by day and see how it goes.
2006-09-25 01:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him right away,... you dont know what tomorrow will bring. Be honest and open about it. I think he still likes you..... why would he still be single, u know? Go for it. I hope it works out
2006-09-25 01:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him.......tell him how you feel.........you may just be a BOOTY call to him............cause you can't make somebody love you.........IF THEY DON"T.........but they will still sleep with ya............
2006-09-25 01:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by nomansangel69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him your concern.
2006-09-25 01:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋