How true it is that if a person is coming from a broken family, she or he are going to have the same ending??? (i am talking about cheating problems with their parents, it just happened to me, i never believe it, but my 2 and half years fiance cheated on me for the second time, the weird thing is that she was always crying that she didn't want to be like her dad and that she didn't want a broken family, and she broke it even before getting married....)
2006-09-24 17:42:11 · 13 answers · asked by German R 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Unfortunately once a cheater, always a cheater... I know it's hard to face -but it's true.
2006-09-24 17:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kelli H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen I come from a broken Family.(I was born in a prison and my parents werent together plus my mom has been married 3 times)
I am not a cheater. In fact because I saw what my parents went through it made me stronger. Drugs and infidelity are something I grew up with. I am not this way, I despise them both. I honestly believe that it depends on the person. I strong person can over come these things. This is the reason that guys are unknowingly attracted to strong assertive women. Good luck with the hunt, it seems that most people these days wanna hurt without being hurt themselves.
2006-09-25 01:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by stormie a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that because your fiance is so worried about creating a broken family, she has decided to take "control" of the situation. By doing this, she believes she has the ability to keep your new family from breaking, even though she has already done so. She sees her cheating as a means of keeping you from cheating on her, thus creating the broken family she emphasizes. This can only be resolved by talking it out with her, and possibly her father.
2006-09-25 00:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by hannahbash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The statistics are pretty grim when it comes to broken families and spousal / child abuse. The most likely indicator of infidelity or abuse is a family history. I'll check on the stats and and post an update. But...
Man is a thinking creature and can overcome both nature and nurture. If you still love your wife see if you and she can attend counseling. Many churches offer family counseling and private services abound. If you have kids, you are almost bound morally to attempt to work things out.
Been there, done that.
2006-09-25 00:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by Squid Vicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I believe that it is just an excuse. I think that if people grow up with a broken home they would STRIVE to make their family life a great one. I do believe it affects a person but it should not be used as an excuse.
2006-09-25 00:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by .LoveStoned. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the individual and their own circumstances...it happens so much that people say they do not want to follow their parents behaviour but then either end up doing it or using it as an excuse when they get caught out!By the way, no consolation, but very sorry she did that to you and hope you find someone who is good to you in the future
2006-09-25 06:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by widow_purple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... the odds are stacked against her. Perhaps, she was so consuming in her desire not to cheat, she did all the wrong things that led to the event in question. My dad is a third generation divorcee. That doesn't bode well for me. However, I'm not going to let it get to me. I'll just live my life and let the chips fall where they may.
2006-09-25 01:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by sportsmovieguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming here that her father cheated on her mother & in this case I'm also assuming that she also felt hurt & rejected by her father. If I guessed right she may be searching for her father & sometimes as strange as it sounds...sex is the way to get male attention.
Her male side feels incomplete & so she searches for it. It's not you & there's nothing you can do about it, she needs to figure this out on her own.
2006-09-25 00:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately sometimes this seems to be true. It happened to me also with my ex-husband. But then his brother and sister weren't like that. So maybe it can be passed down to some children but not all.
2006-09-25 00:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by Tarradiddle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it is sometimes true but not all the time, but she is defiantly a person who is more likely for this statement to be true, but i also think that she is just using it as an excuse
2006-09-25 01:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋