And yes I have a father, and we had a wonderful relationship as I grew up and my family is not broken.
Why is it considered a psychological problem to be attracted to older guys?
2006-09-24 17:12:08 · 21 answers · asked by guitarusa2001 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Firstly, let's get something straight. It is NOTconsidered a psychological problem to be attracted to older guys. People who say that do not know what psychology is, or are merely trying to give an explanation for a situation that they find strange; strange to them at least! You and I know that age is irrelevant when it comes to matters of the heart.
Let's analyse it from a different perspective. Do men who like much younger women have a psychological problem too? Do people go around asking them if they had a daughter or daughters? This idea is absolutely preposterous! Think nothing of it.
I can fully understand how a young woman can like and gradually develop deeper feelings for an older guy. This I say from experience. I had just turned 28 when I met this absolutely gorgeous and wonderful man of 49. The attraction was obvious even from the very start. He had a very, very understanding and forgiving nature, great sense of humour, extremely witty, generous to a fault and most importantly, very loving. You know what I am talking about, don't you?
So, you go on and like whomever you wish, no matter how old. It is your right. :)
2006-09-24 17:47:41 · answer #1 · answered by reformed_witch 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
It is considered a psychological problem by jealous younger men who cannot compete with the power, money , wisdom & maturity of the older men which is clearly attractive to many young women.
The "Trophy Wife" in America is just catching up with this long accepted concept in many societies.
"Trophy Wife" is a great lifetime / career move for young attractive women who can make the grade...
It is as easy to love an older rich man as it is a young poor man
and it results in a far easier and less stressful marriage.
Not to mention both the short and long term financial rewards and security...
2006-09-24 17:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's OK to like older men. Some men like older women. You can't help what you are attracted to. As long as both people are at least 18, I don't see a problem with it. I would be willing to consider going out with a younger woman, but it's going to be hard finding one mature enough.
2006-09-24 17:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by joverlien 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It isn't a problem necessarily, it is a trait. Much of our sexual attraction comes from our childhood. The parent of the opposite sex is our template for the opposite sex as adults. We tend to seek out those who are similar to our opposite sex parent. Some women who are fatherless do seek older men to replace the father figure in their life. This must not be the issue with you. But i'm sure there is some deep reason you do choose to be with older men. It may have nothing to do with your dad.
Also things we see as we are growing up cause certain things to be attractive and unattractive to us sexually as adults. This is where fetishes and things of that nature come from. So don't be so offended when people say that, because a lot of times it is true. If dating older men isn't causing you any problems then just point that out to them.
2006-09-24 19:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
People ask you if you have a father because it's a problem alot of young girls go through. I don't know your age but I'm only fourteen. I know my father but he's never been there for me. I feel attracted to a 31 year old which I know isn't old but is to me. I think I see him as a father figure somehow even though I don't want one. It's caused many problems like depression and panic attacks.
There's nothing wrong with you. There just seems to be if you're a kid.
2006-09-24 18:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't sweat it. Women are attracted to older men due t the fact that they are more settled and mature than younger guys plus, a women always likes to know that they have someone there to take care of them and that gets mixed up a bit with the emotion they had for their parents. It's said by many that most peopel end up in long term relationships with someone similar to their parents.
Check out Frued for a more screwed up version!
2006-09-24 17:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by Travellin Bry 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not a psychologic problem to feel attracted to older guys.
If somebody says it is, them it's there lack of understanding.
If there is a big age gap between you and the guy, people looking at you as a couple may view it as a Father and Daughter relationship.
2006-09-24 17:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by Brenmore 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'd like to know too.
Women just like older men because the men their age are too immature for them as women mature faster.
I think the men who say it's a psychological problem are just saying that to make up for their lack of success with women.
2006-09-24 17:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with liking older men and it is natural for women to marry a man older than she. Take a survey for yourself of people that you know and see for yourself.
2006-09-24 17:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by tman 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's a problem to be attracted to older guys. We women are seldom attracted to "younger guys". And most of us look for men like our father (subconciously anyway). And men look for women who remind them of their mother.
2006-09-24 17:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by Tarradiddle 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋