He says he loves me and wants to be with me and I do love him and always will but Im scared towait that long although I would because we have our son together. My family doesnt want me to but I feel its my choice and its the best choice to stay with him because of the child we share together. He says he wants to marry me and he loves me. Please help.
2006-09-24 17:06:05 · 13 answers · asked by monkeytyums 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
make up your own mind
2006-09-24 17:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW why do you even have to ask this question?? Why dont you do whats best for your son and find somebody who has a stable JOB, HOME, MONEY, AND LOVING!! Obviously your son's father is not loving and caring for your son because he is in PRISON!!! GET A BRAIN LADY!!!! Seriously its not time to think what is best for you but what is best for your son, im sure there is somebody out there that can give you and your son a better life.. Please take my advice and use your brain, and do something great for you and your son, stay away from the loser boyfriend/ father, and keep your son away from him, because you are really going to screw your son up.. GIVE YOUR SON A CHANCE! to have a good life!!!
2006-09-25 00:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by polomatt82 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all I think you need to analize a few things first. Why is he in jail to begin with? Do you really want your son to grow up thinking that doing bad things is ok, because is dad does them? Secondly, how much do you really care for him? Were you two together when he got arrested or had you broken up? If you had broken up why did you break up and would you want to really want to put yoursel fin a relationship you left in the first place because there were problems.
Even though he is the father of your son and is not with you doesn't mean he will never be in your life again. Single parents with children still keep in contact with their ex's for the sake of there children. It is possible for your son and his father to still have a realationship with eachother. You need to truely look at everything, every situation that you could or have experienced and try to think about how being with or without will effect your son as he grows up.
2006-09-25 00:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by ஐ♥Just Call Me Mommy♥ஐ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough question: my advice is that if he made a mistake and is paying his debt to society, he was good to you and your son and he loves you and you love him, then you might want to wait for him. Now the issue becomes whether or not you can do without romance and sex for that time period. Only you know that. But what I would tell you is that if you do get involved with someone else, then be honest about it before you take the plunge. Never ever compromise your integrity for pleasure: it always backfires. The only thing that a good woman has is her integrity: a woman who is a liar and a cheat is not good.
2006-09-25 00:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on. Your child needs a better role model in life then a father who is in prison. Sure once he gets out of prison he should have a relationship with his son... but your son needs someone who is stable in his life and it sounds like your boyfriend is not that person.
2006-09-25 00:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I'd move away with my son so that his father cannot hurt him emotionally (and maybe physically). I wouldn't want my son to know that his father is a terrible role model.
Of course, he would tell you that he loves you now. He wants to insure that someone visits him in prison during the next 5 years.
At this point, I'd only think about what's good for my son and about what kind of man who I want my son to grow up to be. (A good, decent, kind man is the only kind of man who I would want to be with.)
2006-09-25 00:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by chance 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what his crime was. He could be a habitual criminal and you don't want your child around someone like that. He may act nice while he's in prison and then go back to his old ways when he comes out. I would have nothing to do with a criminal. Listen to your parents. All they care about is your welfare.
2006-09-25 00:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why is he in jail? u sure he loves u or he just sayin that cuz he has no one that cares about him but you? in addition your his only way out of prison? 5 yrs is a long time u should move on he wont be there for ur kid and if he cared so much about u and him he wouldn't have been in jail. that was his choice.
2006-09-25 00:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by djtek19 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he could also be saying that because he knows he will have someone to come home too when he gets out. Personally it is your decision. If you do not want to stay with him, you could always have joint custody, its an option
2006-09-25 00:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by ridingis4life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless he is in for a sex crime or battery I would wait for him.Its only five years and theres always a good chance he may get out early.Best wishes you can do it tell your family its your life.
2006-09-25 00:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alot can change in 5 years. Commit to nothing with him, you never know what lies ahead in your future.
2006-09-25 00:33:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋