If a couple is married, and the wife tries out for a play where she is required to kiss another man, does that count as cheating? Has she, if the husband isn't comfortable with it, in essence broke the bonds of marriage? This question may seem ridiculous, but really think about it. I was discussing it with my fiancee and the discussion got emotional fast because the both of us strongly disagreed with one another. So I am kind of curious what the world says. A point was brought out about the fact that many ppl cheat on others with "casual sex that doesn't mean anything" and it is still cheating, so how is the other any different. Or is it justified because, after all, it is just theatre? Just curious what ppl think.
2006-09-24 16:52:38 · 14 answers · asked by vivaciousdramaqueen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say... if your partner is uncomfortable with you kissing another person during a production... then don't do it! There are sacrifices to make in a marriage, if it means turning down a part in a play that makes your partner feel uncomfortable... then so be it!
2006-09-24 16:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are a professional actor, then it is OK to kiss someone on a stage or in a movie, etc. However, some people have gotten so caught up in the moment, that they have gotten emotionally involved with the person who the love scene was performed with. Just look at Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie for example. It has happened. Also, in acting, there are ways that kissing is done that is not actually a real kiss so that this doesn't become an issue. Personally, if I were an actor, I wouldn't want to kiss someone because I wouldn't really know where there mouth has been. I know this is not exactly the answer to your question but that is how I feel. But to answer your question - finally - it is not cheating if an actor kisses another actor who is not their spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend in real life.
2006-09-24 17:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well usually in theater.. the kiss is not much more then what u would give ur grandparents, usually a peck .. and ive known friends to do that as well.. its not a passionate.. tongue down ur throat kind of kiss.. it may have to be held for a several seconds.. but the thing is.. if a wife wants to do something for her like join a play.. or get into theater they should discuss this prior to.. as anyone that knows anything about theater knows that the odds of having to kiss someone else in a play is a great possibility.. so if the spouse says sure honey go for it.. he cant very well go back on it later on.. and although it would be extremely hard for me to watch my husband even lip kiss another woman... if i said go for it in the beginning then it becomes my problem to deal with not my husbands.. I know my husband loves me, now the way id probably need to over come my fear is to go to rehearsals as much as possible and get to know these people as much as possible.. which would curb my fear.. would i say its a breach of marital vows.. no.. its only a breach if theres affection, lust, or love behind that kiss.. if its like kissing the wall, then no.. its nothing more then a kiss..
2006-09-24 17:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question isn't about what is or is not cheating... the question is about whether you should respect your spouse's point of view on any subject. There are many actors/actresses that kiss, do nude scenes, or act out sex scenes. But if their spouse doesn't like them doing it, then it's disrespectful to continue to do it. I think trust and respect are the two biggest abused things in relationships these days.
2006-09-24 18:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by WingNo19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm. Why is it that many actors and actresses wind up in bed together after making a movie? Just read the tabloids for the latest and greatest breakups and makeups. I believe that you have to control the animal instincts inside. If you can dominate the animal through religion or good values it is just acting. If you struggle to contol the animal inside, you could wind up cheating on your spouse with your fellow thespian.
2006-09-24 17:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by kram k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Acting is acting, something she is doing as a hobby or a career. However meeting a man and feeling the feelings that would cause a kiss or a kiss to cause more would be cheating.
2006-09-24 17:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by ââ¢â¬Ã¢â¢Â¥Christyââ¢Â¥Ã¢â¢â¬ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had this exact conversation with my husband and we had a similar disgreement. I think there are two things to think about. One is of course that if your partner feels it is stepping outside the boundary of your relationship you have to respect their feelings. But on the other hand, if this is part of your job as an actor it may be something that he just needs to deal with, understanding that you have no feelings for your castmate and that it is purely "work".
2006-09-24 17:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by jenieatworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From an extreme christian point of view it would be considered cheating. In the arean of acting and theatre ; it is not.
2006-09-24 17:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a play and are just acting a part,,,,NO it is not considered cheating because there was no relationship involved. Only acting.
2006-09-24 16:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me that i am so conservative any kind of touch or any kind of insinuation is a chearting act, we have to remember that a relation is a commitment of two persons for the same two persons, so don't play stupid little games...repect your couple or leave it alone!!!! Don't waste your time and don't waste him or her time either!!!
2006-09-24 17:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by German R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋