(this is not meant to be a rude comment) but i don't go around telling everyone that i am straight u know what i mean, also i was wondering who started the (i don't know how to spell it) lisp, why do gay men talk like that i'm just curious thank you for answering
2006-09-24 15:56:52 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
obviouly this is a touchy subject and i'm sorry if i offended anyone because i didn't mean to, what i meant by flaunt is by totally standing out such as wearing flashy clothing talking with a lisp telling everyone around you that you are gay, maybe thats the only type of gay person i have seen and if so i am sorry to the gays who are normal again i apologize if i offended anyone
2006-09-24 16:12:42 · update #1
they think they are cute and are looking for attention
2006-09-24 15:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 12⤋
Reading over all of the answers here, the only thing I can say is live and let live. Maybe you're confused about your own sexuality. Have you thought about that? I'm bi-curious and proud to say it. We don't 'flaunt.' It's no different then when I have a boyfriend and kiss him in public, or you makeout with your girlfriend at the movies. Listen up, Sweetheart. Love is Love. Gay men do not talk with lisps. You're watching too many movies. "Blast from the Past", "BirdCage", and a great example: "Will & Grace" (I love Jack by the way) But Will...look at him..can you ever tell that he's really gay? Some people choose to act different. You have guys that are more comfortable picking up on the stereotype "gay" and then guys who act more manlier then straight guys. It's all how we choose to act. Just as lesbians. Some can go with the short hair, tattoos, saggy pants, and wallet w/ chain. Or....they could be the most beautiful woman you've ever seen. Sweetie, you may not find this question offensive, but try to see things from our point of view. We don't bash straights. So don't bash bi's & Gays. It's WRONG. We only flaunt what you've flaunted your whole life. Attraction for someone we care about.
Rethink your question next time.
2006-09-24 18:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by LetosGurl85 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know a few gay guys who are notorious for telling everyone that they are gay. I, on the other hand, am notorious for just assuming that people already know (which then can be touchy when I mention things like my beloved if people hadn't assumed it). Most gay people are in the middle. They assume that some people can figure it out and that at times they figure they have to mention it (so as to not cause any confusion or problems later on in the conversation).
Who started the lisp? hehe I have no idea! Some gay people's lisp is very very obvious and other gay people's lisp is barely noticable. I think this is more of a natural thing since I have even heard the lisp in people who don't speak English or American and yet are gay (I used to think it was just a strictly cultural thing or related to language...having met many people who now refute this theory I have now decided that it just must be a naturally occuring phenomenon). Now that said there are gay people who do emphasize it and do so on purpose (probably to make sure that there won't be any mistake). With the gay people I know who do often "flaunt" their sexuality it came about after having problems with heterosexuals who mistook them for heterosexuals and then there were hurt emotions (girls who liked gay guys, guys that liked lesbians and when the hetero found out the homo was a homo the hetero's feelings were naturally hurt and the homo felt bad and felt that somehow they had led the hetero on so the homo then decided to find ways to indicate to other heteros that he/she was a homo and thus started taking on more stereotypes of homos in hopes that no more such problems would occur).
One has to be careful, though. Sometimes there are hetero people who also exhibit similar "stereotypes" that gay people are supposed to exhibit. I've met them and mistook them for being gay only to find out that they were not. It taught me a major lesson on the subject of stereotypes.
For the most part, most gay people aren't interested in flaunting their sexuality. They are trying to use some symbolism, codes, etc so as to let other gay people know that they're gay (for various reasons). Some can go too far, but they usually have reasoning behind why they are more extreme than others (one example as mentioned aboved).
It may sound strange, but being a gay man I have often wondered why many straight men feel the necessity to try to prove their masculinity and heterosexuality. Women do not seem to feel the necessity to prove their feminity and heterosexuality, yet men seem to try their very best to emphasize that they are "manly men". Oddly most especially around other men (it tends to tone down when around women I've noticed....and gay men, coincidently...unless they feel threatened by gay men then it gets to weird heights, but I won't go into that). I'm just asking based upon my own personal observations of human behavior.
Anyways, great question. Thanks for asking.
Peace be with you.
2006-09-24 20:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel_zachary 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not offended. Support us in getting the same legal privileges as straights and the purpose for telling the world that we are homosexual will pretty much go away. This goes beyond marriage by the way. In many states, if the employer finds out someone is gay, they're free to fire the person regardless of job performance. Same holds with housing and many of the things that the equal rights amendment provides protection for other minorities.
Hasn't it occurred to you that most gays and lesbians have absolutely no desire to share our sexuality? It's personal, just as you said. The reality is that most of us don't and you probably don't even know that we are gay.
But, if you are talking about being able to put a picture of our partner on our desks, being able to talk about our partner as a partner, ya know, regular life discourse, or walk down the street casually holding hands as a regular non-sexual way of couples... then you're asking us to live in the closet for your convenience. That's just not right. Hope that's not what you mean!
and yes, just like very many straights, there are people who make a point of sharing their sexual everything with everyone. That doesn't really have to do with orientation - it's a personality thing
2006-09-24 16:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by Alex62 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I would like to know what you mean by "flaunt their sexuality". You dont go around telling people you are straight because it is ASSUMED to be the case. You also can witness straights walking hand in hand and kissing in public and rarely if ever being scolded for it. Gays only want the same rights.
2006-09-24 17:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, let me get this straight...only gay men wear "flashy clothes", and "flaunt their sexuality?" Ha Ha..what universe are you living in? Turn on a tv, open a magazine, go to any high school, go to a mall...I see all that coming from str8s. But I guess seeing nudity and "flashy" clothes are ok if it's a str8 person according to you. You are a bigot. Gays are here..get used to it. And if we want to wear "flashy" clothes or kiss our bfs or gfs in public...get USED TO IT. I'm offended seeing these 15 year old girls wearing their pants so low I can see their crack. Yuck. And your stereotypes are equally offensive.
And JoeyK...where did you get your degree,from the internet..cause what you are spewing is bs. No respectable psychologist believes anything you said.
2006-09-24 16:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by GoldnHart 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
By saying "flaunt" thier sexuality, you are being offensive. Is it flaunting sexuality when every other commercial shows a straight couple embracing because they bought whatever product is being sold? Is it flaunting when you walk down the street with your opposite sex partner holding hands? Not all of us lisp, by the way. Spend some time in a big city and you'll see a wider variety of both gay and straight people. It's a big world out there. Check it out.
2006-09-24 16:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mark 5 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Lighten up everyone! Asker, never mind everyone shrieking at you. I think you are very polite and some of the answerers are rather rude.
I think that when you have been part of a culture that has been attacked for centuries in some places, and made illegal, and denigrated for a long time, like homosexuals have in some countries and women have in most countries, you tend to be quite happy when you find yourself in a time and place where you don't need to be quite so afraid and angry anymore. Perhaps that is part of the answer.
2006-09-24 19:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Straight people have been "flaunting their sexuality" forever. And as long as gay people hid out and acted like they were something to be ashamed at, it was OK. Now we live in a new time when EVERYONE has a place at the table. If anyone's sexuality (adult, consensual) bothers you, then you need to look within yourself. Why does this bother YOU? Sexually secure people don't care where other people find love. Your question contains the answer.
2006-09-24 16:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas B 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
First, all gay men are "normal" and to imply anything else is ignorant... *not meaning to offend you*, and why is it okay for a straight couple to make out in the middle of the sidewalk in broad daylight, and yet when gays do it, it's offensive? what's good for the goose should be good for the gander, babydoll... and if the only gays you see are the ones who stand out like that, you're not looking hard enough.
2006-09-25 15:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by Phedre D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people seem to think that living our lives is flaunting our sexuality the same can not be said for the straight community if people see a man and woman holding hands when in public they think nothing of it but if the same people see 2 women holding hands they say we are flaunting our lifestyle how about its the samething the only diffrence is the way the person looking at it feels i do not get into pda myself but being proud of your mate is not only for hetros as for the lisping thing who knows sounds weird to me but to each his or her own
2006-09-25 07:15:01 · answer #11 · answered by patbgone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋