My daughter doesn't sleep during the day unless I'm rocking her to sleep in the glider. Any ideas? I think she is too little to lay her in her bed and let her cry herself to sleep. I don't think I could do that yet. Thank you!
2006-09-24 15:48:08 · 14 answers · asked by uniek_angel 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Crying it Out as it refered to by some is not popular by some but it can be done without tearing your heart out, lol I promise. Three kids later you just have to learn what works best for you.
Start letting her go a little at a time. Start with a minute or two the first few times, then gradually start extending it. Give her things to distract her, toys, music, a mirror, a picture, etc. Put a pillow case that you have used or a t-shirt you wore in with her, the smell will help. White noise can help to, a fan, vaccum, TV static, etc. When she cries instead of picking her up, sooth her by talking to her and rubbing her back, sing, make a recording of these and play them when you lay her down.
HTH
2006-09-24 16:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by channielynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I always nursed mine to sleep. You could try using a sling to carry her around when she won't sleep.
They do need help falling asleep sometimes, and you are so right - she can't be allowed to cry herself to sleep. That is emotionally devastating to an infant - the whole first year is about deciding whether the world is a trust worthy place. If she can't count on you when she's crying, she learns the world is a bad place and mommy doesn't care what she needs AND that her own efforts are in vain. Good for you for avoiding that pain.
Enjoy rocking her in the glider, mom. It sure won't last long... people who advocate babies crying it out are insensitive sadists who wish everyone else to inflict on their children the abuse they inflicted on their own. It's a heart breaking cycle and must be resisted and shamed.
2006-09-24 22:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did was that I left the room and let my daughter cry for one minute... I came back to comfort her then left again... then after 3 minutes I came back to comfort her, leave, then after 5 minutes... each time making it a longer period of time. She was able to totally sleep on her own after 2 days.
What my best friend did was she would slowly work her way out of the room. One day, she would hold her daughter and rock, next day not rock, next day put her daughter down but held her, next day held her daughters hand, next day she sat next to her, and then worked her way out of the room. That took a LONG time to do and sometimes her daughter still wants her to hold her and wont take no for an answer.
Get ideas, find out what you feel most comfortable with and try it. Don't be surprised if you have to try a few things tilyou get something that works. Hang in there!!!!!!!!
2006-09-24 23:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by J M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't let my 5 month old cry herself to sleep yet. I know it's the popular thing to do, but I agree that they're so little. We tried it once and she cried for 3 hours. Have you tried swaddling? We still swaddle our daughter. I think the book The Happiest Baby on the Block is a good resource.
2006-09-24 22:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by Gina P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look you are the mommy you know whats best for your baby If rocking her to sleep is a good thing and you dont mind doing it then do it. rock her Listen to you. You are the one raising her and different things work best for different people no babies are alike everyone is different . Babies also need their sleep someday she will have to learn to sleep by herself with out outside interfearence. You might want to try gently laying her down ever so gently after she is asleep for about a half hour in your arms .mimic the rocking motion as you gently lay her down for a nap babies this asge can smell you so give her something of yours you have worn to sleep with .
2006-09-25 02:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by dovesofpeace56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of people who believe in the crying themselves to sleep approach...for me it was excrutiatingly difficult to hear my son wailing for 10 or 15 min..I tried it a few times and was really upset by the whole thing (as was he, I'm sure.) What I've been doing now is laying down with him on the bed and holding him really close. He cries a bit but I just continue to hold him and pat his back..the most he cries is for 5 min, he falls asleep, and I transfer him to his crib.Hope this helps!
2006-09-24 22:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by becka55 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is not too little to make her cry herself to sleep. The first day it will take forever, or at least seem like it. The second day it will be a little shorter. By the end of a week (that will seem like foever too) she will be only crying a little, maybe 5 minutes. I have done this with a baby I was weaning from the pacifier. It works if you have the courage to do it.
2006-09-24 22:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just enjoy her! Trust me, soon enough she won't want to rock with you in that glider and you're going to miss it!!! My little one wouldn't nap alone until she was about 7 or 8 months. When she is ready she will do it. If you let her do it in her own time she will be more independent than if you force her to do it early.
2006-09-24 23:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by all_my_armour_falling_down 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For both of your sakes you need to do something now. It will only get worse and harder to deal with later. Crying won't hurt the baby. It only hurts the mother. If you stick with it in a very short time she will nap by herself. Believe it or not they really do learn to manipulate very early. I had to do this with my 5 month old who is now 29years old. I have raised a lot of kids in my day and now have grandchildren. But that first one is the hardest one to know what really is ok and and won't hurt the baby.
2006-09-24 23:04:00 · answer #9 · answered by Maria D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not going to get any easier as she gets older to let her put herself to sleep. Newborns are perfectly capable of learning to put themselves to sleep by crying.
So long as she's tired and you know she needs a nap she'll eventually fall asleep and it will become a habit so much so that she'll do it the same time every day.
Other than rocking her I dont know what to tell you. Maybe put her in her carseat and take a drive until she falls asleep...
2006-09-24 22:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋