All of the answers are great but i feel the need to clear some things up?

Question

My son does not like him that much and has not since day one. This is my son's step dad. My son see's his dad on a reagular basis. I have talked to him but he does not respone at all. Sometimes i wonder if he is listening. I have talked to him about this 2 times already and he starts talking but then we end up right back here in a couple of months. My life is miserable. I kid you not. Before my daughter left to move in with her boyfreind he would hug on her and love on her and do things with her (step dad too) but not with me and my son. I wonder if he married me for my daughter. He never had children and she came along and stole his heart. We have never been in love and that is where our problem is. Oh he could stay like this forever but i can not

Answer 1

Honey, life is short. We get one time around. You can sit and spend it miserable and wishing for something more, or you can take a step forward and actually do something about it. Relationships take work from both sides. What it takes to catch a spouse, is often the same thing needed to keep that spouse. If you are putting in your fair share, and still getting these results, then it's time to consider the fact that maybe this isn't working. And that's okay. Nothing is fool proof. We all make mistakes. But it's what we do with those mistakes that determines our course in life. We either learn from them and move on a little wiser, or we stay in nuetral waiting for the next mistake to come along. You have a son that you need to think about here. It's not just you. He already has a father, he doesn't need two. Your daughter is grown, and you need to think about this. It'll be hard, but you've started over before...you can do it again. Just this time, don't rush into anything. You are going to be okay on your own. Having a man around doesn't always mean instant family...especially if the units of the family are so distant. Do what you need to do honey...this is your life, and it should be one filled with the happiness you deserve.

Answer 2

Your son does not like your husband? He took care of your daughter but not you or your son now? Is it possible that he does not want to deal with people who do not like him? That sounds like both of you who are left. Your son does not have to like him he has a father. You on the other hand married this guy. You need to figure out why he is not treating you lovingly but I think it has to do with you defending your son all the time. This kid sounds like a teenage boy and therefore by definition is a jerk. Maybe you should take a good hard look at the way his residence is affecting your marriage. If you are not careful this kid who should be out of the house soon will sour your marriage to the point that there is no recovery. Then you get to live alone with no kids or husband. Maybe deep down that's what you want. Is it?

Answer 3

I wouldn't give yer troubles to a monkey in Iraq!

The low self esteem you must overcome can't be helping this situation. It's still my 'objective' opinion that the solution will be resolved, for better or for worse, with the meeting of the minds of your husband & YOU! There seems to be plenty of issues which could be addressed & overcome but not without a concerted effort of the most selfless & mutually combined assessments.

You ALL really are in need of intervention. This forum should be abruptly closed & another avenue of approach immediately initiated. These revelations dictate a level of therapy & action well above and beyond the scope of Yahoo!Answers with much more sophistication & urgency. Go figger ~ =-(

Answer 4

I would recommend that you sit back and think about what your goals are, and wether or not he fits in with them. It sounds more like a marraige of convenience rather than one of love. I have a son who lived with his mother and her man friends, and has since totally disowned her. This is not good for anyone, and should be avoided at all costs. If he married you for your daughter who no longer is with you, then it is time to get rid of him as well.

Answer 5

Well first of all ask yourself theses question . why would you want to stay with a man who married you to get to your daughter ? that's disgusting , and i would leave .you say you don't love him so whats keeping you there ?