I am 17 years old, friendly and I smile a lot, and on random situations where there are a ton of people I can be a little bit shy. The only guys that ask me out are guys that come into my job and are older and creepy, or a group of guys that are jerks like saying "oh look at you hottie, you fine piece of ***" as they said a few days ago. It sickens me and makes me feel like crap. I was dressed in loose black slacks and a t-shirt. Nothing revealing at all. I almost feel like all guys are like that. I have had a few guys ask me out, but it just didn't work out. My guy friends and male co-workers tell me I am beautiful (but always end up going out w/ another gal), which I don't feel at all and I have a horrible self-image b/c of this, which I know I shouldn't let the way guys approach/don't approach me affect my self-esteem..but after a while it does, . I am a Christian and I plan on saving myself until marriage, which I know isn't too "cool" to most guys. What's wrong with me?!!
2006-09-24 15:33:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Also, when I am interested in a guy, like I am now, I am friendly to him, but I tend to stay aloof because I don't want him to know that I like him if I'm not sure he likes me. I basically act like I don't like the guys I do actually like b/c I'm too afraid of rejection!! Is that a problem to most guys....if you think a girl doesn't like you.....do you even pursue her??!!! THANKS!!! :)
2006-09-24 15:34:19 · update #1
Look, it sounds like you're on a totally different wavelength from most of the people that you're interested in, and the fowl ones just hit on you because they don't know any shame. That's why they're so untrustworthy and indiscriminate. Hanging out in environments where you're more interested and you're surrounded by like-minded people will yield much more positive results.
If many men tell you you're beautiful, it isn't because they like the sound of their own voices; it's true. You know that not many people can resist approaching the truth about attractiveness if asked. "Oh, you're ... coordinated. I mean, you have great, um, posture," is more likely.
Being grade-A isn't a flaw, it's a characteristic, and it's one that you need not be ashamed of. Sub-par relationships will only lead to heartache -- even if it's with a sweet guy who you realize is a little less person than you need for the rest of your life.
2006-09-24 15:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Em 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't see anything in your rather long question that indicates that you like any guys at all. Sorry. I'm just an older, creepy guy and perhaps a jerk as well, so you don't need to listen to anything I have to say. It really sounds to me like you just don't like guys.
But that's just by what you say, which is a reflection of who you are on the inside. I've never met you, so I don't know anything about how you look on the outside and I guess that's the really important thing.
Cheer up. though. I don't think you'll have any problem with saving yourself until (and even beyond) the time you get married, if that happens at all.
2006-09-24 22:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by anyone 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The problem is really your self image. You have to beleive in yourself and know that you are beautiful even if no one tells you. You shouldn't wait for a guy to make the move. If your interested tell him. Be forward and honest. Guys appreciate that and if he doesn't like you at least you wont waste time playing games.
2006-09-24 22:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by laedeb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suggestion- First you should try to find out who you are independent of having a boyfriend. Figure out what you like and dislike, your hobbies and great personality traits. Then if you feel like adding a boyfriend to that, make sure he is worthy of your time and attention. You need to be you weither you are with someone or not. Life is to short to worry what somebody else thinks of you. But also remember that you are worth someone taking the time to get to know you. And those dirty old men- nobody can make you feel like crap without your consent. So just keep going- make something out of yourself then you can stomp on them with your high-heels.:)
2006-09-24 22:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by Goldylocks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys don't ask girls out because they are affair of rejection. There's nothing wrong with you. Just wait the right guy will come alone.
2006-09-24 22:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just trust God and speak good words about yourself everyday. try to find some buddies: females to hang around with. and do not worry.
2006-09-24 22:37:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋