Was your child a surprise or planned?

Question

If your child was a surprise, how do you think it would change had your child been planned?

If your child was a planned, how do you think it would change had your child been surprise?

Also--would you change when your child was concieved, why or why not?

Answer 1

All 4 where a surprise! we had them we GOD wanted us to! bye now

Answer 2

Our daughter was a surprise. We were engaged, and wanted children, just werent planning on any yet. I was 19, my husband was 20, and she was the best surprise we have ever gotten. Our lives were a mess before her. We were young and had no direction in life. When she came along, it was the best thing ever. Not only is she an amazing little girl, but she also forced us to get our lives in order, and now we are happier than we ever imagined possible because we feel we have a real purpose and direction in life, and she brings us so much joy. Although things may have been easier if we didnt have her so early, neither of us would change a thing. When you go thru hard times with someone you love, it can really bond you in a special way and now I know my husband and I can make it thru anything. We have a greater appreciation for life and are looking forward to more children in the future. If she hadnt come along then, we would probably still be struggling to find our groove in life.

Answer 3

1. My son was a major surprise after several years of failed IVF and finally being told that I would never get pregnant and to expect perimenopause at 35 - which is what I though was happening during my first trimester.
2. I'm not sure what you mean by the second part of your question.
3. I often wished my son had come sooner - when I was younger and had more energy. I'm 38 with two year old and sometimes I feel like I just can't keep up. But I do. And I think about it and realize that if he had come sooner we would not have made the decision to adopt our daughter. I know that she is with for a reason.
No, I would not change when my son was concieved.

Answer 4

My child was a surprise and I think everything would change if it had been planned. I had just graduated high school when I found out I was pregnant but I had already been married for 6 months. Yes, I would change when my child was conceived because I am young and did not get a chance to live my life before becoming a parent and because I was not ready to be one. We where just getting on our feet as newlyweds and was not stable enough in anyway to have another person to be taking care of.

Answer 5

My first two were planned and I wouldn't change anything about it. My third was a surprise, I was 41. He changed my life for the better and I would not change a thing about him or how he was concieved.

Answer 6

My first born was a surprise. My husband and I weren't even married yet. But you know, I wouldn't change anything about it. I wouldn't even go back and change it to have happened after we got married. Because everything turned out nicely and we learned many lessons along the way. I feel I'm wiser now because of it -- a kind of wisdom that I would never have gotten if things had been different.

My second child was planned.

But both cases--I'm glad now in hind sight that they happened like they did.

Answer 7

Both of my kids were planned. I've only ever been with my husband so if they had been a surprise it still would have been fine we just would have gotten married sooner and had to go without a little more. I wouldn't change anything about how or when they came into my life.

Answer 8

The first was a surprise, second planned, third a surprise. With all three, I would've waited longer, till I was more mature and better able to provide for them. If my first child had been planned, than I would've been married first and already had a home established before she came into the world. As it was, I had to hurry up and get things together (including trying to hurry w/ my college) so I would be ready for her arrival. I wasn't ready.

Answer 9

first was a surprise, but the best thing to ever happen to us. Our second was a "if it happens it happens" we stopped using protection and I got pregnant instantly. I was 21 when we got pregnant with our first and had been together 4 years and living on our own for 2 years so I really wouldnt change a thing. It only got better from there! been together 6 years and having our second baby this Tuesday!

Answer 10

Even when they are planned they are still a surprise. You never know when you will actually get pregnant no matter how long you have been trying. It took me about 2 years trying on and off and was very surprised to find out I was pregnant.

Answer 11

Not only was my son a surprise, but I had to deal with unknown paternity issues until my son was born. I was dating one guy, but have gotten raped by another, been raped by a minor. When I got raped, it happened shortly after having done the act with my son's father. My son's father refused to accept I was raped and kept accusing me of cheating on him. He told me if he found out the baby wasn't his, he'd kick me and the baby to the curb. Luckily, my son was not conceived out of rape. But if he was, I'd still love him just as much because he had no fault to how he was conceived. My little angel is here for a reason, so I wouldn't change anything. No kid is an accident. Kids, planned or unplanned/surprise, are meant to be.
I was 27 when I had my son, but that's a good age because it meant that I got to get the childless lifestyle out of my system for awhile before becoming a mom. Yes, parenthood comes with many sacrifices, but it is better to be a parent. Being a parent forces you to focus on someone besides yourself and be more selfless, it supposed to make you more wise about who you date if you become a single parent because you got to think in terms of what do you and what do you not accept around your kid. Having a kid is supposed to help you gain more wisdom. Then, there's that excuse to watch cartoons and eat happy meals, and no one can crack at you because you have a child. AND, having my son makes me feel like an EXTREMELY young 30. I can't wait until he's a teen-ager; I'd probably feel like one right along with him. Parenthood can be hard and have obsticles, but there are NO BETTER rewards than the ones that comes from having kids. Kids are people you can learn from, as well. Sometimes they have more wisdom than adults in some areas.