i had a long term relationship with them both at different times in my life, but im not sure wat 2 do .
2006-09-24 15:08:25 · 28 answers · asked by sweet_heart2luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
pick whichever one is willing to wait for u to marry him.
2006-09-24 15:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by Roger 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is no clock ticking saying that you must pick either one of them or lose your virginity right now. You can only lose your virginity once. If you love and care about both of these guys then it seems to me that you might regret it if you sleep with one of them while having feelings for the other one....
I would wait if I were you until I really knew what I wanted....you have plenty of time to make that choice. Ultimately the right guy is the one who doesn't push you and the one who sweeps you off your feet.....you want your first time to be a good memorable experience and not a disaster. Good luck!!!
2006-09-24 22:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please for you own self respect do not just jump into bed with a guy just because he tells you he loves you or you dated him for a while. Think about the things that could happen afterwords. Are you ready to be a mom if you accidentally got pregnant. Is he man enough to stick with you if you do get pregnant. You have a lot of time before you need to take that Huge step in life. Good Luck!
2006-09-24 22:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by sjs27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEITHER!!! Pick someone you are in love with, someone special who is WORTH losing it too. Not a couple of has-beens who don't really mean that much to you. It sounds like they're playing a little game to see who can get you to give it up. DON"T do it and be WISE to the rotten games guys play. It sounds like they don't have your best interest, they just care about getting some for their own personal benefit. Once they get it, they will move on and find someone else to use for sex.
2006-09-24 22:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur first time should be special not a toss up between two guys, its not a contest any one has won. remember ur first time never come back.
normally i would say wait till u r married, but in most cases i say make sure its someone u really love that way that memory is with u and u never regret it. dont do it cause every one is. sex is good but much better when its with some one who means a lot to u.
best of luck
2006-09-24 22:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by in ur face 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not in a relationship with either one now, don't do it! Once your virginity is gone, it's gone! I strongly suggest you wait, people will tell you until marriage (which is a good idea), but if you can't wait until then, make sure you are in a relationship with someone that you love before having sex. Good luck!
2006-09-24 22:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound way too young to be considering this. Your virginity is not a thing to be given away one day because someone talked you into it.
Your virginity is sacred. It embodies all you stand for, and must not be taken, or given lightly. If one is cheap and easy they give it away to the one who "wins" their affection for the moment. Know that moments can pass easily into harsh realities.
If you are wise you will set standards that must be met before you even consider having sex with anyone. Think about how you want your life to be.
Do you want a healthy, handsome, man who will make pretty, healthy babies, and be mature enough to be a good father and provider for them?
Do you want a man of high moral character who will make you proud of his beliefs and actions, someone you can look up to?
Do you want a courageous man who will fight for what's right in the face of adversity?
Do you want a gentle man who will treat you with respect and listen to your needs?
Do you want an ambitious man who will strive to reach his goals?
Do you want a man who will make you proud when you are in a room filled with people?
Do you want a man you think of day and night and can't wait to be with alone?
Decide what you want, then settle for nothing less, because if you do, that will be exactly what you get. Less. If you do not require commitment and high standards from him before, don't expect them from him after. Don't give yourself away easily. You are worth a more than a mountain of the finest jewels, and if these fellows can't or won't wait until you deem them worthy, and therefore desirable, they are not worth the time of day from you, my dear. This is the perfect way to see if they measure up to your standards. Make them wait untill you are BOTH ready to make a commitment. Then MAKE the commitment, and be glad for the rest of your life you did not take lightly the most important step of your life!
Best wishes to you sweetie!
May God bless you with a long and happy life!
2006-09-24 23:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets take the opposite view of this.First, do they love and care about you? Not about who gets your virginity first.
Second, no matter who you pick, the other guy will feel like the loser.No matter what he might say. If you pick the one you are with now, it will look so obvious.The other guy will say"Of course you picked him,you're with him now".If you pick the guy you were with before. It will look like your "cheating" on your current boyfriend.
That may sound silly.But I have seen many arguments over ex-girlfriends.
This is just my opinion,but wait and see who really cares about you.Not just your virginity.
2006-09-24 22:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by david g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you only loose your virginity once! So if you pick one, the other is not going to get a virgin. Now that's too bad because all boys should do a virgin at least once in his lifetime before he goes to war and gets killed. So save your virginity for the one who is going to give his life for you! What do you say?
2006-09-24 22:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by the_md_victor 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? And what do you mean by "long term"? Why don't you stop thinking about having sex with them, and figure out which one (if either) that you really and truly love. If you don't love either one, then move on... You don't HAVE to have sex, you know! Not that sex is a bad thing, lol!
2006-09-24 22:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by JP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my question for you is the following what makes you think that either one of them will have anything to do with you once you have given in and given them what they want? It seems like neither one of them care that much about you or you would be in a more serious relationship with one of them and you would not be asking this question.
2006-09-24 22:15:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋