What do you do if your wife never understands how you feel?

Answer 1

Most women can sense other peoples feelings. She may not be able to respond, however.
Take a look at what your wife does in a day. Does she go to work, do laundry, do the groceries, cook, do the dishes, clean the house, take care of the kids, pay the bills and take out the trash?
There isn't much left for that guy watching TV on the sofa at the end of the day is there?
Start working with her to accomplish the chores, then when you sit down to veg in front of the tube, she can go take a bath, relax, let her brain rest and start to remember what it is to be your woman. When you first start to relieve her burden she may need to rest. The fact that she does not respond to your feelings would indicate to me that she is exhausted. Allow her this.
As you continue to share the responsibilites of the house and the children she will learn to trust you. Continue to make decisions that take her into consideration and she will want spend time being close to you.
Then you won't have to ask why she doesn't understand how you feel.

Answer 2

Maybe because you dont assert yourself enough. A person...woman or man will never understand how you are feeling if you dont tell her/him. Not once, just keep on reminding her that you have feelings. Be consistent, dont back down. Dont allow her always to have the last say. Dont allow her to think she is the only one with feelings. Take control, be consistent, keep on telling her until one day the penny will drop and she WILL realise you do have feelings that she needs to consider....But only with consistency will it work. Sounds to me you are in a one-sided relationship where the woman wears the pants. She can only wear the pants while you allow her to.

Answer 3

Oftentimes there"s poor communication that's been causing misnderstanding among couples. The best way to deal with that problem is to have an open communication among yourselves. There's a possiblity that those problems can be resolved simply because both of you will work it out as a team and deal with it in a positive way.

Answer 4

Have you tried talking to her? It sounds like there is insufficient communication in your marriage. It's usually men who don't understand women, instead of vice-versa. However, if you feel she doesn't understand how you feel, then tell her, explain it, draw her a diagram if you have to. You really didn't go into much detail in your question, so I don't know exactly what issues you want to address.

Answer 5

Perhaps instead of trying to be understood, you should "listen" to what she's saying. :-) Sometimes when two people are both frantically, desperately, trying to be understood, none of them can hear each other.

If you listen peacefully, in a nonjudgemental way, she may actually say something that would cause an actual rational discussion. To relate effectively, you must listen. :-) Good luck.

Answer 6

You get counseling with her.
Maybe this should of been a thing to work on before you got married. But, it is too late.
Not everyone can truely understand how another person feels. Are you asking too much?

Answer 7

First are you expressing yourself in a way that she can understand? Do you want her to understand? Is it something that can be understood? Ask your self these questions, then you will be closer to the answer.

Answer 8

We are self centered so unless you feelings have to do with your wifes well being, then she will probably continue to ignore you.

Answer 9

Make sure you understand how she feels first.

Answer 10

More details needed