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there is a friend who was with a guy and she really loved him. she was needy and he dumped her. now she is obbessed abt getting revenge. he is with some one now and she is too good for him. but he cheats on her and she knows that
she is confused in what do do. should she tell the girl abt it or just let them be. it bothers her so much that she dreams abt it every night,
she still loves him too much and is ready to let him go for his happiness but not if he is cheating and just using another girl
what should be done?

2006-09-24 14:50:29 · 9 answers · asked by in ur face 4 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

9 answers

We all need to have "Closure" but in a healthy safe way.. It's so normal to be upset and feel like revenge but you just can't go down that road.... You would be down to his level and you would have to get a ladder to even climb up to the ground. So don't do that.. It's hard and there is no doubt about it. You could always make sure the girl knows he is a cheater by having someone pass her a note. Then that would be off your back. You can't save her from a cheating BF but maybe that would help get that off your mind. Otherwise you will probably have nightmares...not dreams.... about it until your mind is settled...I would not worry about him using the other girl. Thats her problem... You don't have to let him go for his happiness because it demeans you. What about your happiness? Why worry about him being all happy.. I would just cock an attitude and completely ignore him. Then ignore him some more. Make him wonder why he is now being ignored. I am sure he has to know you are watching him, hurting and he really likes that... Take that away from him. Do a reverse.. a turnaround.. an unexpected silent treatment. He won't believe it. It will bother him.. He will probably call you and ask why you are ignoring him and lost interest. He won't be having fun any longer watching you suffer.. Its really all a mind game. You might as well have fun too.. No revenge because that will hurt you.. Be your own best friend and take care of you.. But have some fun with it.. like he has done... It your turn

2006-09-24 15:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Lea 4 · 0 1

Neither revenge nor forgiveness. The situation doesn't call for either, as if "revenge" is EVER a "solution".

She needs to concentrate on HERSELF, mind her own business...because this could backfire on her...and she needs to move on!

Prehaps this experience is a bit "off", but it goes to show how messy such "situations" can get, even with the best intensions and the truth:

When I was young, I told a girlfriend the truth that her boyfriend was running around on her. One of his guy friends saw this at the same time I did...BUT his guy friend said I lied [he "backed up" HIS friend] and I lost my girlfriend's friendship for telling the truth. Of course, I lost all respect for this guy and his guy friend.

However, her "boyfriend" was never a boyfriend of mine and never would have been. I wasn't interested in him, but I wasn't "out to get him" for any reason. I was only concerned about MY friend.

Years later my "friend" admitted she "found out" herself, later, "But", she said, "it was OK." In other words, she tried to tell me it was "OK" for a guy to run around on her. Of course, that's a bunch of bull and she "said that" just so she didn't have to admit SHE made a mistake when she let a good friendship go.

I was fortunate that I "lost" her so-called "friendship" since she proved to be a complete idiot. And, shortly after this mess happened, I made a few great friends who were of "like mind" to me.

Whether girl friends or "boyfriends", good friends are what we "go for".

2006-09-24 22:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by Seneca 2 · 0 0

Stay out of it completely no matter what you tell a person they are going to believe that way want to and blame you for trying to break them up... its best to move on and let them work out there own problems life is too short for drama and BS,,

2006-09-24 21:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by M M 3 · 0 0

If she were to tell the other girl, do you really think she would be believed? The man would tell his girlfriend that she was just a jealous ex trying to break them up. I say just let it go and move on.

2006-09-24 21:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1 0

She needs to stay out of their business.
Revenge is lack of maturity and senseless.
One cannot forgive when feeling the way she does currently.
Nothing should be done because he is out of her life.
She needs to grow up and move on past this.

2006-09-24 21:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lore 6 · 0 0

She does not love him, sounds like she is a stalker. People move on all of the time. It is time for her to move on and get over it. If she does not, she still will not get her man - she will just end up looking stupid.

2006-09-24 21:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by sandra g 3 · 0 0

move on get over it you could call the girls mom and say that you are from school and ask how she is taking the news of being pregnant

2006-09-24 21:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by rradboys 3 · 0 1

OK, I am dizzy!
And I am not even involved!
Get Away!

2006-09-24 21:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by LN has3 zjc 4 · 0 0

forgiveness

2006-09-24 22:36:02 · answer #9 · answered by ReeZ C 2 · 0 0

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