She was constantly abusive.verbally and sometimes tried physically. (I never hit her,ever) I was saved 2 yrs ago, and we as a family (3 kids, hers from prev.) went to church 3x a week. Our son, 17, wanted to go to spain on a misson trip. He scored 31 on his act. so he"s not dumb, just kinda lazy. He wouldn't do anything to secure financial donations for the $2,000 trip. I told him that if he was gonna do the lords work, he had to get out there and do something about it or else he could not go. I'm disabled (double amp.) and can"t afford to pay for it. He looked at me and said "you act like you can tell me what to do! Like you have any power over me" I told his mother that he better listen to me, and then he proceded to jump on me and put me in a choke hold and throw me around. Now mind you, I am missing half my right leg and my right arm. Well, my wife told me I no longer had the right to tell her children what to do anymore. I had to ask her to ask them to do their chores and stuff!
2006-09-24 14:43:15 · 21 answers · asked by stever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks people! Y'all gave me the kick I needed. I had left her 3 weeks ago, and now I got my divorce papers in hand. Happy days ahead!
2006-09-27 04:46:09 · update #1
If they read their Bible correctly, and I am no expert, but I can remember something like it saying The Man is the head of the household. They are going too far, you are in an abusive relationship with your children as well as your wife. And I think your children have learnt how to abuse you from seeing your wife do it.
We are living in this world.....we are not in a spiritual one yet. They are using God as an excuse to mistreat you. I bet any money you like if you didnt have a disability they wouldnt be game to treat you with so much disrespect.
You need to show them who the man of the house is. You need to assert your rights and your disability should have nothing to do with it. You are a man and you dont deserve to be treated like this.
I suggest you move out as quick as you can. Keep on going to church if that makes you happy and you will find the true Christian people....people who will treat you humanely, and not as a disabled person. There are people who will treat you as a person with a disability, meaning they will treat you as a person first, and your disability last.
God will not condemn you for this move. I am sure he is very angry at seeing you being mistreated and downgraded with His name is being used as the excuse.
2006-09-24 15:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you without an income because of missing limbs....seems your brain is working...and you could conjure up some means of income. For this you may be respected more by your family. A man without work has too much down time. Perhaps this is a time to reach out and let your family miss you for a while...don't leave them...just find a way to become more mobile and get a job outside of the home where you can put your energies where they will be appreciated. If nothing else...go back to school and get a degree in teaching...you can at least teach without limbs. You typed this question, you read, then perhaps you can teach...this is an area of great need...you can begin by subbing
at the schools...yes, this may shine a whole new light on you...
besides being an example of great inner strength which this nation lacks role models that over come great feats such as yours. You can do it....Do you know the scripture....I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME. ?
2006-09-24 15:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like an awful situation and you should never have to tolerate abuse from anyone. I do agree that the biological parent should be the leading parent when it comes to discipline etc but in no way should you have to put up with his behaviour. However, having said that I do not think there is much you can do because you can never offer an ultimatum to your wife, asking her to choose between you and her children. So your only option is to discuss other strategies to deal with his behaviour that is acceptable to all three of you or step away from the relationship, which would be a shame. Good Luck!
2006-09-24 14:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by jbabee22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow, just cause you're disabled, doesn't give them the right to disrespect u. Just remember that u do have the right to tell her children what to do since u are now the father figure and if they live under your roof, they have to follow your rules. But the way it stands, these people have no respect for u whatsoever so u do whatever u think is best for u as nobody deserves to be abused like that.
2006-09-24 15:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your wife slip and bump her head in the shower earlier that day? I really can't understand her thinking. I am married for a second time and if my kids did that I would have been the first to kick some rumps!!!!!! Also to be christians? HMMMM........ they may fool the church but not the man up stairs.
Best Wishes,
timidlady2003
2006-09-25 14:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by timidlady2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are disabled doesn't mean you have to put up with that kind of abuse. I don't know how to tell you to get out but I'm sure there must be a way. Please don't stay with this witch. I have the feeling something terrible will happen to you if you do. Call Social Services in your area and maybe they can help you or they will refer you to someone who can help you. God Bless you and Good Luck!
2006-09-24 15:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT!!!!
You have ever right to tell the children what to do you have been with them for 10 years. And yes i would divorce her. You have your problems and you are trying to make the kids so the things that they are suppose to and she shut you down. She told you to shut up. There is a lack of guidedence here. You need to move on to someone who can respect you and your raising of children.
2006-09-24 15:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
steve accepting christ is cool bro, i'm sorry to hear about your missing body Parts, but it gives (nobody) the right to put there hands on you,nobody! i would have made a police report the minute it occured ,i know why you didn't, you thought this is just a one time thing, well i'll tell you this, it happens once, it may die down for a while, but it (will ) happen again! you do not need Negative jerks in your Life, tell moma and Her Boy,to hit the BRicks!, and if she starts running her flap,ide pepper spray her right dead in the eyes!, mace in on sale at walmart .com, i carry it with me for out of control babes in my life, i dont have time to sit and listen to them ramble on about how wrong i was, i just say (pepper to the eyes) is a nice suprise!
2006-09-24 14:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you get no respect around there. Anyways the kid will be 18 soon and gone.You hope. Pretty simple really, set her straight or tell her to leave with her kids. By the way , I would of called the cops on the kid. Thats not right, I think they call it assault.
2006-09-24 14:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of been out of that marriage a long time ago. At this rate, your son is acting just like his mother. I'd of called the police and told them they better come and get him. He could get mad at me all he wants but he'd know I'm not putting up with his crap.
2006-09-24 15:23:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋