This is a question for my college sociology class. it would be great if you guys could answer this, thanks.
Why did you have children? Was it a conscious decision? More importantly, was it a response to social pressure?
2006-09-24 14:39:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It just happened with my first one. I did not plan it or anything. was shocking because at the time i was in school. I took care of my responsiblities. My second child was sorta planned but he wanted to and i did not. It can be frustrating when you wanted something so bad and all of sudden your prego. in the long run im very happy i have her. They are the best kids.
2006-09-24 14:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 31 with no children--At 10 I joined the group Zero Population and still believe in family planning, conscious choices regarding sexual health, and protecting the earth from overpopulation. Also, given the number of unwanted/unplanned people walking around feeling like they have no value -for good reason, plus all the miserable couples with kids that had them to fix or get into a marriage or because its what their parents and friends did so it has to be right, right?--uggghhh-sometimes you have to love your children enough not to bring them into this world---- there is alot of social pressure to have kids- at my age I have officially hit the "old maid syndrome" according to the people with kids around me-- yet I am happy, have a great life, a healthy social and sex life, money, freedom, and can travel and do all the things thay can't--go figure--life can be sweet when you have the courage to choose not to hang with the herd.
2006-09-24 22:08:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before my husband and I got married we discussed having children. We knew we wanted to have 4. My first pregnancy was not planned, however we were extremely excited we were going to be parents. Our second child was planned and is 14 months younger than our first. My third was also planned but that was 5 years after child number 2. My forth baby was planned but we lost him before he was born. I did not want to endure another pregnancy after the loss of my last child. My husband insisted we try one more time, so we had our next baby.
He was going to be our last and our family feels very complete.
I love being a mom and sharing our life with our kids. My children bring me joy every day of my life.
OH, no social pressure here. I just wanted to love a child and have a hand in raising someone to their fullest potential.
2006-09-24 21:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by together420yrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did i have kids.. hummm i had kids cause i loved my husband and always wanted to be a wife and mother.. i had them earlier then maybe i should of because my father was ill and i didnt want my kids growing up not knowing what a great man he is.. i didnt know my grandparents, they all passed away by the time i was 6 and i was stuck always asking questions about them from my parents what they were like ect.. and i was always envious of kids in school that were always going to visit their grandparents.. so i didnt want my kids growing up like that..
2006-09-24 22:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we had been married 10 years and the biological clock was running out. It was conscious and planned.
2006-09-24 22:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my children because I wanted them.
2006-09-24 22:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋