My husband and i been married for one year. It seem like are love life is going down. he dont kiss me are hug me but about once out of a week . I know he is not cheating but what is it?
2006-09-24 14:39:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think once they get the marriage certificate and the ring on your finger something subsciously goes off into their itsy bitsy brains and they realize that they no longer need to bother going out of their way to be intimate with you.....everything becomes very routine and suddenly life shifts from spontaneous sexual encounters to boring, predictable sexual moments....When things get really comfortable for your spouse and they really get lazy then sex becomes what I would describe as faster than "Minute Rice" or perhaps a moment between commercial breaks.....I even refer to it as the five and dime at the pump and squirt.....I have tried everything myself.....lingerie, candles, lotions, lubricants, toys....in my case my hubby likes his video games.....We have been married for 9 years and have 5 kids....Lack of privacy also kills off your sex life....be warned of that added bonus.....once you have kids your sex life progressively goes down the drain....
Chances are you just need to surprise him....try new lingerie....buy some kinky toys like a bondage kit.....feed each other different sexy foods with the person being fed blindfolded.....give massages with scented oils.....maybe even purchase a vibrator and allow him to use it on you.....Adam & Eve.com is a great website for all these products....
Good luck!!!!!
2006-09-24 14:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really now...how romantic are men before marriage...it seems we only see what we want to see before marriage...men and women...then when in the heart of it...something seems missing! Hmmmmm wonder why that is???? Are we in love with love, and the blinders hindering the reality that awaits us? Sure, that's it! Now rethink your question...Romance is not usually in the heads of most men....but always in the women's. Seemingly women think men are romantic,,,but it was probably just coincidence! If romance is what you want...you have to create it....sorry it is just the way it usually is for most anyway! Don't be sad...it's OK if you do all the work...at least he still loves you enough to put up with your romantic notions.
2006-09-24 21:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men stop being romantic because that's how they are. He's probably not cheating just tired or something. Set some time aside for just the two of you and tell him how you feel maybe even suprise him by being romantic yourself.
2006-09-24 21:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by poohbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't really stop being romantic they feel it is their duty to work and support the family. and that will get in the way. i have been married for ten years and sometimes i just have to get my groove on to keep the flame going. COMMUNICATE sit down and talk you always have to keep the lines open
2006-09-24 21:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by sharon r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is normal unfortunately...men feel like u belong to them now and they don't have to try as hard to keep you. women also do this but in different ways by not giving it up as often. So women need more romantic things to feel appreciated and guys just need physical things. ya'll should meet ecahother half way. just remeber communication is very important in a relationship. ask your man the same question.
2006-09-24 21:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by pyt_tlc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm beaning my romantic and I'm not even married. I guess beaning is something everyone should get into. You ask . . . "but what is it?" It must be the beaning!
2006-09-24 21:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by the_md_victor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know why the bride is smiling on her wedding day.
She knows that was the last BJ she'll ever give.
Goes both ways babe. Show him the love and it will come back to ya.
2006-09-24 21:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by rikv77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the women usually stop with the exciting sex just put out a little and see how romatic a man can get
2006-09-24 21:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not just men hun.....but men do have a way of getting complacent and too comfortable in their relationships. He needs a rude awaking........kick him in the *ss!!!
2006-09-24 21:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think because they are comfortable now and they got you so no need to try. I so wish we can go back to when we first met i miss that feeling.
2006-09-24 21:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋