what do i do?

Question

This is a difficult situation. My freind has a daughter aged 15, i have know my freind for best part of 25 years, her daughter is best freinds with my 14 year old daughter.
Over the last 6 weeks alone i have noticed on 12 occasions, my freinds daughter get out of strange cars during the night, all different cars too and different guys, as well as standing on street corners. it doesn't take a genius to figure out what is happening.
What makes it more apparent, is that she seems to have a lot more things, like clothing, makeup, cigarettes and the latest music and phone. I know my freind struggles with the mortgage so this would not be affordable, these items don't come cheap.
i know this really is none of my business and i should stay out of it but i have known this girl since she was born and i don't want her life destroyed or the people round her, like her parents and most of all, my daughter. yes she concerns me the most. do i have a quiet chat, or call the police, or stay out of it?

Answer 1

I would have told the father after I told/asked/confronted her about it. It could stir up a lot of trouble, but if you are right, then it definitely shouldn't stay that way. She's also underage(?).

It's too bad for such a young girl to be doing those things who don't even "need" to do it.

Answer 2

I know some people will say stay out of it...but your friends daughter is your daughters friend also. You could express your concern to your daughter. Maybe your daughter could give you some insight to the situation. Kids are pretty wise. But I would definitely discuss this with your friend. If it is done out of care...
She might not like hearing what you have to say but it needs to be said. You don't want anything happening to your friends daughter and if it means some uncomfortable meddling, then do it. Good luck.

Answer 3

there's no way to help her and your friend unless you're honest, sooner or later they're gonna find out, sooner will be better. don't let them find out later and also find out that you knew. anyway you could take drive with your friend and "happen" to go by her corner? if not, find a time, place and way to tell them, SOON. you might not want to let your daughter know what you're doing till it's done, she might have a hard time not telling her friend, then it's your word against hers. how about a picture on your phone? show it to your friend, especially if she says it's not true. she needs intervention, she may want all the cool stuff, but she'll end up with a lot more than she bargained for. don't let it go any farther, don't let her take your daughter down that road with her. step up to the plate and be that friend, the one who's looking out for everyone's best interest. do something before it's too late.

Answer 4

I know how tough these situations can be, I have been in many before. I would tell you to call the police before it gets further, because she is your friend you have to do whats good for her. But you also have to take the chance of her getting mad at you and never forgiving you, but if you take my advice and call, you will feel good, and that you did something good for her!

Answer 5

By turning her in you may save her life-from some murderous nut- and disease- and the parent is guilty of child abondonment and endangerment- and probably contributing to the delinquincy of a minor- you can turn her in anonomously- it would be the best for her- esp since she is under 18-It is not worth the $ and things-and it may give your dau. ideas.I turned a grampa in for molesting his granddaughter- got him out- the mom wouldn't do it-she wanted someone else to do it- take care=D

Answer 6

mind your own bussiness and just dont let your daughter and her hang out ...your just gonna mess things up worse...she knows whats she doing ...

Answer 7

talk tohere