is it right or wrong to spank your kid and how can u teach disipline without spanking?

Question

in my country we did something wrong we were gonna get it and that staraigned our asses i am from stlucia so i know what its like but when i come to canada and i see no one is hitting there kid and the kid gets to do what he wants that grounding **** dosent work the kids will still misbehave when my grand dad gave me a slap on the bottom i kne not to steal anymore if he grounded me i would just look at him and not even respect him, i am not talking about physically abuseing your kid to the point where he is dead all i am talking about is giving him a smack on the bottom

Answer 1

I don't believe in striking children because I don't believe it works. I was subjected to constant abuse as a child and the net effect was that I lost all respect for my Father and rejected everything he claimed to be trying to teach me. Only my mothers intervention kept me from murdering him. I was a single father and I never my struck my daughter, I rarely even raised my voice. Children learn from what they see, and the best way to teach is by example. I was a single parent and I raised a child who was an honor student all through school, was consistently praised by her teachers as one of the brightest, hardest working, most courteous, best behaved children they'd had. She doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, never did drugs, has never been in trouble with the law, chose, upon graduating High School, to serve her country in the military, and was a virgin at her wedding. Exactly how would spanking and yelling, instead of the methods I used, have caused her to turn out better?

Answer 2

I will not spank my children...and my mother or father never spanked me either. Children deserve the same respect that we as adults demand. Once a child is to a certain age, then communication is what is needed, and punishment that lasts longer than a spanking. The parents at the school where I teach take away the phone, Ipod, you name it. They take away the things that mean the most to them. I blame the indulgences for the bad behavior in the first place. The kids talk about their "whoopin's" like it's a big joke and it doesn't change their behavior at all. We have stopped communicating with the kids.....we don't have time....it's go go go. So, a smack on the face or behind and away we go again. The kids who are the best at our school are the ones who I see communicating in a respectful way with their parents.....and the respect goes both ways.

Answer 3

I think it depends on the age of the kid. I understand what you are saying, but converserly, slapping a 12 year old on the bottom may teach them there aren't any long term consequences for misbehavior. I know lots of kids (I did this too) who would rather get few swats than be grounded for 2 weeks. The other problem with physical punishment is that if it's not paired with a discussion, the child may learn that the way to get what he or she wants is to smack other kids around. Finally,what you mention in your post is a problem, too. You said you wouldn't respect what your grandfather said unless he smacked you. I want my children to respect both my words and my actions. That's what discipline really means. I can teach them by correcting their behavior.

Answer 4

It is absolutely right to spank your child (depending on the age of course). No, you should never beat a child, but a spank on the bottom isn't going to kill anyone.

Unfortunately, you have a bunch of idiots running around trying to say it's wrong to spank a child and now we have kids who have no respect for authority and no hope for a bright future. They're turning out to be rapists, robbers and worse. Why? Because they're not getting enough love or enough discipline, and yes, discipline is a part of love.

I wonder if the parents of those murderers in Columbine had given their children love and the discipline they needed, if the tragedy wouldn't have been avoided.

Idiots sow the seeds, we all reap the consequences.

Answer 5

Spanking is a thing of the past, like wife beating. I have smacked my child but not a belt out whipping. We were never belted the very thought of it was enough to get us running. My mum had a look. But remember they had god to back them up, so if we didn't do right we were going to hell - scary s**t. I used to tell my kid they would come and take him to the naughty farm until I realised I was really emotionally damaging him

Answer 6

I grew up being smacked around. The only thing it taught me was to fear my parents, my dad in particular. Believe me, it hurt my kids far more when they lost out on birthday parties, Little League, playtime, had toys taken away, etc. I taught my sons responsibility without hitting them. They are both responsible adults teaching their kids right from wrong without resorting to hitting.

Answer 7

How can we expect our children to grow up to be non violent if we teach them it's okay to hit someone smaller and weaker when they do something that's irritating? Kids should behave because they respect their parents and want to earn respect in return, not because they are afraid of getting whacked.

Answer 8

I do discipline my children by spanking them but for me to do that they would have to do something horribly wrong.