I try to act like I'm still turned on but he says he can tell. I tell him these things turn me off and I can't help it but he says I have to do them or else HE can't be turned on. What can I do!?! I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place (no pun intended) as i can't do either of the things he's asking me. Should I take acting lessons, then?
2006-09-24 14:27:48 · 32 answers · asked by just_sometimes_i 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ha ha ha
that pretty hilarious and to think some people will really give you sound advices.
2006-09-24 14:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by say_what!!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When me and my boyfriend have sex i don't really say much to him. Sometimes I catch myself saying "yeah...yeah..faster" between moans haha. But I dont really say it on purpose. It just comes out. Maybe you saying stuff (like what your wrote) during sex is a turn off to him. Personally I think I sound REALLY annoying if I start to say stuff like that. So I don't. Or if I do I keep it to a minimum. If you wanna spice things up Id say try a new position. Or do it somewhere more exciting. Like in a parking lot in the back of your/his car. lol. Me and my boyfriend have had sex in the back of my car a few times during the afternoon. Just make sure your windows are tinted and you parked where hardly anyone parks. Oh! And be sure to use windshield covers! Lol. Oh and taking a shower/bath can get fun ;) You can IM me if you have any questions!
2016-03-27 07:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything in the bedroom between two consenting adults is absolutely fine. If it is something that you are doing and not feeling comfortable with, then you should not be doing it. Love is about respecting each other in and out of the bedroom. If you are doing things that are turning you off then you should stop doing it. Its not just about him, its about you too. You have to enjoy everything equally.
If this man is not considerate enough to care about your feelings, then he is the wrong man for you. You say that he can tell you are not enjoying what he is expecting you to do, and you tell him it is turning you off, but he still is expecting you to do it...he is a selfish lover. He is the one who needs to attend some classes....how to turn his woman on in a way that will make the experience enjoyable for both parties...not just him.
2006-09-24 14:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First be true to yourself. If you don't want to do something like that then don't do it. Never except an "or else" from someone who is demanding a sexual act you don't want to perform. That is NOT a sign of love, but selfishness on his part.
A man who truly loves his girl will wait until she feels the time is right to try new things and be comfortable in what she is doing.
If he refuses to do that, then he's not the guy for you.
He should look on the corner downtown!
2006-09-24 14:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by together420yrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two are not right for each other. If the two of you are both stuck in your own ways and you can not arouse each other in bed, maybe it is time to move on. I do not think you should take any lessons. The most important part of a relationship it to be yourself. If you are not able to be yourself you are most likely in a relationship with the wrong person.
2006-09-24 14:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a mutual turn on. If not, you will get tired of acting. If you don't like something or a particular act, tell him. You can try the "I don't want to do that, but how 'bout this." approach.
2006-09-24 14:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL he's so full of crap.... a man needs a hard on and a hole and thats it lol.. he wants u to do them cause he wants to do them thats it.. and if he doesnt respect u enough to realize something bothers u then he's not worth it sweetie, and if he has to keep stepping it up a notch in the bedroom to keep getting "turned on" then whats next.. how far are his limits before he does something that is really immoral or really bothers u.. and how long to u keep doing things u feel are wrong just to apease him??
2006-09-24 14:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had a boy friend like that at one time i happened to marry him and it was a very controlling relationship now i am fighting like hell to get a divorce and he has turned out to be a stalker good luck think about what i said
2006-09-24 15:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find things to do that work for both of you. It's not fair if only he is turned on, and you shouldn't do things that you don't like. I don't think that there is only one way to turn him on, talk with him and try new things.
2006-09-24 14:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a Prude,is no reason for him to want you to do Modern day things that most every babe will do for her man, if you really are dead set against it, find someone Old that dont like those things done to them, then you two can set out on the front Porch, smoke your Corncob Pipe and just Chill untill your retirement Check comes in the mail!
it dont Matter what he wants! if you dont want to do those things DONT! save yourself, hell i had a babe in my late 20's didn't want to ither, i dumped her quicker than a hot wax candle hitting your face
2006-09-24 14:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him do the things that turn you on first and when you reach your point of ecstasy then do to him the things that turn him on so that you both reach fulfillment. You wont have to worry about acting since you will already be satisfied and will not have to worry about being turned on or off. ??? maybe, just a suggestion.
2006-09-24 14:35:45 · answer #11 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋