My best friend recently told me he was gay, however, he has never been with another man. Now a week later he asked me if he could practice giving me head, so he's better for when he gets a boyfriend. Now, I'm gay, but he's been my best friend for a long time, and I had always done anything I could to help him out. What should I do, he's really persistant about doing it, but I just wouldn't be comfortable.
2006-09-24 14:19:56 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you're not comfortable, than don't do it. Also, it might destroy your friendship. Just tell him exactly how you feel and that your friendship is more important to you than doing him this "favor."
2006-09-24 14:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by TrainerMan 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable, just be honest. That is the best thing any friend can be. I can understand why you would want to help him so that he doesn't go out looking for someone to practice on and put himself into a risky situation for his own health and safety, but you shouldn't do something you don't want to do. Hopefully he will understand. Tell him to imagine what he would want to be done to him if he were receiving oral sex and then just tell him to do that to whomever he is performing fellatio on, and he shouldn't have any problems. You can also send him to this site, which has pretty good instructions: http://www.stacken.kth.se/~virgin/sex/oralindex.html
2006-09-24 16:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how your letting him practice on you will be bad. He obviously respects your opinion and he's probably nervous about his first time. Be a friend and help the guy out. Who knows you may become better friends as a result. Just make sure that he undeerstands you're only letting him to help him with his technigue. Then just lean back and enjoy.
2006-09-24 18:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by lifhapnz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're uncomfortable about it, it's your loss, but kidding aside, have you ever considered his fear or giving it to a stranger? maybe he wants to do it with you because he is comfortable with you. If you really are uncomfortable with it, then i suggest you ask from gay friend of yours who you think can help your friend and not take advantage of him. on the other hand, maybe your roommate has the hots for you!!!
2006-09-24 14:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're a straight person who made this question up... gay people don't call themselves "homosexual" - and furthermore, this scenario is completely ridiculous. if someone is just your friend, you wouldnt get an erection for one thing...and if it was your friend, you wouldnt even be considering it "out of friendship" - come on... now give me the points for being the only one on here who could tell u were bsing.
2006-09-24 20:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand his question, but, in a hetero world we don't ask friends to practice. (maybe) so if you don't feel comfortable having him give you head to practice, just say no and explain that it isn't anything personal, but you would just rather not. It's OK.
2006-09-24 14:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself if you want to help him experience this and be the first guy he gave head to. If you feel comfortable you don't have to do it, but it is really helping him since he obviously feels comfortable asking to to be his first. You two should talk about it together
2006-09-24 16:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a question only you can answer. unlike some of the people that have answered so far, i have seen both positive and negative outcomes. it totally depends on the people. but i will say that i believe that there isn't the same emotional level with most guys and sex as with the girls and sex. but i can tell you that my best friend is my lover and he gives great head. and he has had sex with most of his friends, male and female. he also has some of the longest friendships of anyone i know his age. he is 29.
2006-09-24 14:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
For some reason i sense that he doesn't want to practice on you. it's very possible that he has a thing for you and that's why he's come out to you and asked you for this favor perhaps. Have you ever thought about the possibility of you and him?? Think about it yeh?
2006-09-24 19:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think that you do live with him. Don't do anything that you know you'll regret later. Try setting him up with a friend. He shouldn't assume that you'd want that just because you're his gay friend.
2006-09-24 14:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think friends use their friends for sexual practice- it shouldn't matter if its gay or straight. Why should you let this male friend "practice" on you? Would you let your female friends practice on you? I know I wouldn't want my male friends "practicing" on me. Or... maybe your friend has sexual feelings for you, and wants the practicing to lead to a different kind of relationship. Good Luck!
2006-09-24 14:28:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋