Both partners experience hurt, pain, disllusionment, financial social, and economic loss, as well as, personal discouragement in both types of relationships. What's the advantage/disadvantage of one relationship over the other when it ends?
2006-09-24 13:42:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The is no difference in the pain. A marriage legally protects the woman and their children from men who break the marriage vowels and visa versa. There is no such protection in common law relationships for either the woman or their children. Men can run from common law Scot free leaving the family in bad shape. The big hurt are the innocent children, especially in the common law.
2006-09-24 14:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by the_md_victor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did not say how long you were in this relationship,but I am assuming it has been somewhat long since you are experiencing loss in financial and social loss....The advantages of a common law marriage is the legal fees only....The emotional pain would be the same,also the longer you are in the relationship also is a factor because you have had lots of memories,family involvement etc....Being in a relationship also has something to do with (how you feel about this person)if you really loved this person or still love this person,but are breaking up because you just cannot get along,makes a BIG difference....If this was a relationship only for compainship,the pain will go away soon....If you were really in love with this person and have lots of ties then it can take two -three years depending on the situation.I had a very long relationship with children involved.I left the relationship after a very long time and it hurt for a very long time...If this is a second or third relationship and wasn,t that much involved,then the pain won,t last too long and you will be on your way.....Good luck
2006-09-24 14:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loosing a person whether marriage or common law is going to be pretty much the same emotional pain. The differences that exsist: would be that in divorces, the process takes longer so the pain gets to linger longer. Many divorcees also feel a lot of shame when having to admit their vows did not work out and that they are divorced not just broken up. Nevertheless, a lot of common law relationships feel misunderstood because people in general often dont validate the feelings of the split and many more feel screwed that they put into the relationship and now have no legal way to seek compensation on the finacial level. In the end pain is pain.
2006-09-24 13:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by okitty_kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No difference whatsoever, it's the length of the relationship that matters.
The difference is in the legal implications. In many countries/states, there's no need to involve lawyers in a common law split, so the break is faster and cleaner, which means recovery can start more quickly. However if the partners disagree, or if the state/country has enacted legislation to protect common law partners, then lawyers will have to get involved and it can be just as complicated and painful as a divorce.
2006-09-24 14:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could never be any difference I think. If you lived together long enough to be common law you lived as you were married.
I do not know of you legal rights under common law. I would think you would have had to make it official before you would have the same binds you do when married.
Regardless...there is no advantage as the pain and loss is just the same.
2006-09-24 14:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about for yourself, or for the kids? According to you, you believe kids born out of wedlock are bastards and so are their parents. This label can be hurtful and damaging to anyone who believes that. A bastard to me is just an S-O-B! What matters the most are the parents ability and compassion for the child during any kind of break up. The most important thing is that the kids don't see the parents fighting, and the parents make sure the kids know its not there fault. I wrote you an e-mail concerning your answer to my question about an absent father who was abusive. With that answer, i hope you don't have any children to pass on these really sick ideas. If your just an angry person, the best way to go on, is just to understand and forgive, or just just letting someone hurt you over and over, even if they are not in your life. And by the way, I'm giving my son and his father a second chance (to bond) and hopefully he has changed, because i don't want my son learning anything that will hurt his life.
2006-09-26 02:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by chara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I think that divorcing from marriage is more deeper than ending a common law relationship.. I think it hurt ten times more when people divorce in marriage because in a common law relationship it is just a phrase to get to know one another and to start communicating one another.. When a man and a woman get married they both think family [children], financial together.. When we start relationship it is just a time to get to know one another what they like, do, lifestyle
2006-09-24 14:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None that I can think of. Common law relationships could still involve lawyers. It can certainly hurt the heart as much.
2006-09-24 13:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depend
the difference is that in a divorce you most of hte time need a lawyer so that cost money
while in a common Law marriage 90% of time you don't need a lawyer
2006-09-24 13:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the marriage is more difficult to end because two people stood up in front of a church full of friends and family and God.....and then it fails, it feels like it failed everyone. The legal crap is horrible.
2006-09-24 14:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋