2006-09-24 13:33:49 · 20 answers · asked by scott p 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Be fair to her and break up with her - that is not right and now - since you are aware of this you should end this - start to change this materialistic quality that you have a tendency for. I would not tell her that this is the reason - I wouldn't. I would just say that you feel that you two aren't really compatible and that while you care for her, you don't care for her in that way. This would hurt her too much and may negatively affect her (probably already low) self esteem and ALL future relationships. This was not right to do to her in the first place and it isn't right to be selfish now and tell her this is your reason for ending it - just once, consider her feelings - now - consider them and just end it for another reason that won't hurt her - not this one. She will be so hurt and you won't feel too good about that either. Just for once - be fair to her - she deserves that after you have taken advantage of her. Don't make her feel like a fool.
It is not healthy and I make a practice of not doing to others what I would not want done to me - you should live by this - really.
It is not fair - and not only are you depriving her of real love and someone that could and would truly care for her - but you are also depriving yourself of love, compassion and being loved - love gives to the person you care for and to you.. it makes you grow and see the world differently. This way of living is probably coming out in your whole life - not just with her - you think you are getting over and you are not. You are not even fooling yourself. She may even know what you are doing but perhaps she suffers from low self esteem and would rather have someone than no one.
Life is good when you work to make it good and work for things that you have and when you can help take care of another person. My bf and I share money - what's mine is his and what is his is mine - and that is fun and comfortable and secure.
You are the one missing out here and losing. I would never tell her this - just be a man and end it - really. You telling her this could destroy her for years to come - she may never believe someone loves her for her or may never be able to trust anyone ever again. You won't start living until you start working for things and giving to someone - life is not about taking - it is about sharing, giving, compassion, trust, experience - and honesty and since you are aware of this and mention this I think you may want to change that so make tomorrow a new day - and work towards becoming a new man - a better man - who feels good about who he is night and day - you are only lying to yourself you know... it is one lie to cover another to cover another and feeling guilty or like this is not right is no way to live - start living your life. It is not the right thing to do to the poor girl who thinks you care for her.
2006-09-24 13:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably already knows you are using her. Give her some credit. But un-fortunately, it may be that she really Loves you. A woman who Loves a man , tremendously, will tolerate anything. But someday, either you will move on and break her heart, or she will soon wake up , find a good man and tell you to get lost. Your day is coming, because the old saying is: What goes around, comes around.
2006-09-24 14:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you do tell her this you won't be dating her paycheck much longer!
2006-09-24 15:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by midwestbruin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You REALLY should tell her the longer you wait the harder it is.
You should probably tell it to her face or at LEAST on the phone
and be strait out don't try to make it different than it is. Hope I helped!
2006-09-24 13:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Assasin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you'v realized how much of an *** you're being.. i suggest you just tell her she wouldn't understand, leave, and never talk to her again.. it wouldn't hurt as much if you just left it up in the air because if u tell her you're using her for her $$$... she might kick u in the balls... orrrr break your nose.. either works fantastically to get the point across that she's pissed.
goodluck with that, dick!
2006-09-24 13:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by brittypxo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By email. The cheapest and most impersonal method of communication ever invented.
2006-09-24 13:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by Slake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll figure it out, if she doesn't already know.
You could tell her the way you told us on Yahoo! Answers. Be out the door already though. Those high heels hurt!
2006-09-24 13:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drive youself over a cliff and leave a note!
2006-09-24 13:35:56 · answer #8 · answered by knujefp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell her that, but you still stop seeing her. You call her up and politely tell her that you would rather not move forward in your relationship with her.
2006-09-24 13:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most girls know it already. You on the other hand are a man whore!
Is that good or bad? You choose.
2006-09-24 13:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by jinx4swag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋