How do u deal with anger? I get attached to being angry for a long time & hold it inside. How do I calm down?

Answer 1

I deal with anger by talking with friends. You could do something you like doing...for some people it's drawing or painting, others cooking, swimming, find something you can do to relieve stress. Try taking a ten minute nap when you are really mad...or just lay on your bed with the light off, no distractions...that usually helps me too.

Answer 2

Perspective. How productive is the anger. If you are angry about something that only rates like 1 on the importance scale you should only give it 1 amount of time. If someone does something so bad its life affecting beyond reason then give it 10 and be angry. We all get mad but some things are just out of our control and are not worth thinking about.

Answer 3

In life you cannot controll how people respond to you. You cannot control what they say, what they do but you can control how you respond to them. You have control of your responses to the stimulus around you.
Anger is an emotion that you have every control over. There are means and ways on how to address anger 1. Identify what makes you angry. 2. Take a deep breath and analyze the situation and ask yourself if there is something you can do to address the problem to feel better or if you are willing to pick your battles and let it slide. And when you so decide to let it slide or go then you completely let go of it. 3. Utilize techniques to help you deal with your anger (ie distract yourself like watch a movie, talk to a friend, read, excercise) Remeber that anger is OK it's how you act when you are angry that counts

Answer 4

Myself I have all sorts of anger towards my ex, who broke up with me by lying to me he became gay. I heard from someone else he lied.

How I am dealing with it is by talking to others about it, or writing an email. I found that when I talk about it, and write an email, it helps me to put things into perspective.

Pretend to write to the person you're angry with, and tear up or burn the letter when you're done. Or, you can tie a balloon to it, and watch it float away, and let go of anger that way.

Do something physical, like walking, swimming, kick boxing, beat a punching bag, bowl, darts, etc.

Realize that life is too short to stay angry.

Or, you can try sweet revenge: The kind of revenge that's beneficial to you, but does no harm to the other person (except might cause them to be envious or put a dent into their egos. LOL!) Some examples of sweet revenge is like, if you dreamed of being a musician, try out for that, or do something you enjoy, but become a success at it.

Try this for anything you're angry about, not just break-up in relationships.

You're a BRAVE person for asking this. Take Care. You just took the first step!
Not to sound funny or demeaning or anything, but if you feel the anger is really controlling your life, causing undue hurt to others, or your health, seek counseling.

Answer 5

I've realized that whenever I'm angry in public, I hold it in.. which actually doesn't feel good, so I tend to get violent at home and start yelling... screaming really helps, and letting out my anger through excess force is what calms me down. That, or I listen to music and b*tch for a while... lol

Answer 6

Purpose to channel it to something positive depending on what is happening at the time to make you so angry.
If you can walk away from an upsetting situation then do so as fast as you can to avoid saying or doing something you might possibly regret!
Practice at it and in time you will be totally in control of your anger and use it in constructive rather than destructive ways! Good luck!

Answer 7

Let go of anger in a healthy way. When you stuff it down, it comes out distorted and exaggerated. If you can't talk abou tit with someone who has angered you, go punch a pillow till you wear yourself out or take a run. Anger is energy that must be released. Otherwise, it can turn inward which causes depression.

Answer 8

You could deal with anger by screaming really loud..i think that might help..or you could write poetry..u can express your anger by writng it down in paper and by that u wont really hurt anyone..the other thing is to also think of good things when you're mad.

Answer 9

Have a hot bath, with a hot chocolate and a good book.

By the time you get out, you won't know what 'angry' means.

(Choose your book wisely though - a bit of chick lit works considerably better than a dictators biography!!!)

Answer 10

Write in a journal
Put on some music (You know you can go to Yahoo Music with your account!)
Talk to a family member or friend. (Sometimes a Psychologist can help!)
Exercise
Get some dance mats for your Video game system!!!
Read some jokes like www.jibjab.com
Join some Yahoo groups support groups for emotions may be of help to you!
God bless you and good luck! :)