2006-09-24 12:55:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ummm i think u should think about it less often... age difference doesnt matter... YOU ARE MARRIED TO HIM!!! what are u scared of??? if not him then who are you going to turn to later on in life?? hes one person who god has made you unite with to be free with him... its just tht hes better at experience... even he might be feeling my wife doesnt talk to me and mite be feeling awkward... speak to him... if u ppl have no chemistry then try and make him your friend 1st... then itll go on... automatic u both will be dependant on each other for opinions and more... there will be a time when both of ya'll will be dying for the other to speak to each other... so cheer up... the age difference doesnt mean its the end of your life... u have just got married.... ur life has just begun...!!
good luck and GOD BLESS =)
2006-09-24 13:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why haven't you spoken freely to a man you made vows with for 12 years? Not a good thing but not too late to start. Just sit him down and go for the gusto. Say what's on your mind. If it is something offensive, then try to be gentle and never make such a big decision as to spend your life with someone you can't communicate with.
Good Luck
2006-09-24 13:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by curious51867 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that now is the time. Communication is what makes any real relationship work. It is the "relating" factor. You need to pick a topic that is important to you and let him know how you feel about it. Start a conversation. let him know, in a clear, cut and straight to the point way what you feel about situations that come up. If you don't like having to take out the trash, say it. "I don't like taking out the trash. I would much rather wash dishes." "I would like to have children, I think that they help you develop as a responsible adult." What ever it is let your voice be heard. If he is that much older than you, he should be very grounded and understanding.
2006-09-24 13:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Shanigirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey don't you think the time is now to speak freely to him?The age doesn't have anything to do with it.. I know..My sons father was hmmmm let me count.Oh s h i t at least 20 years older and we didn't have any language barrier...The only problem we had is he died and now I'm alone to raise my son...So you need to get over his age and find out why you really aren't talking...Good luck hon..If u ever need to talk my email is listed.
2006-09-24 13:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a common ground that both of you are both interested in and go from there. Also maybe buy a book on communication it helps you understand the way other view your communication skills and how other communicate.
2006-09-24 13:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by dzjoni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men r all the same - older or younger....
Be pleasant and cheerful on ur own side, try to understand him and involve into his affairs and his family members.
He might've certain responsibilities towards his other family members or he might be in luv with them - u just co-ordinate with him.
Try to win his heart in bed and dont ever 4get his tummy sweetheart..
2006-09-24 13:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by simi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont u speak to ur hubby freely.
is it becoz of age gap.
be free man. its ur husband. he is not ur boss or ur master.
you hav the same status that he has got.
wen u husband is in good mood, ask him whehter u can be more free with him. if u dont oepn ur heart, u wil hav to leave like this. he may not understand ur feelings.
so plz be free with him and enjoy the life
all the best
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2006-09-24 18:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by lin d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how old you are dear. why did you marry him? were you pregnant? if you never spoke freely to him, what happened to result in your marriage to him. sorry, i need more info if i'm to give you any help here.
2006-09-24 13:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by vrandolph62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start speaking your mind,and he should respect you.If you can't talk to your husband,it's no need to be married.If he doesn't except you being able to talk things out and you have to split,it's his lost to have a young wife to leave him,because he may not be able to find another Young wife.
2006-09-24 13:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's quite an age gap, if you couldn't speak freely to him before you were married you shouldn't of married him ... i guess the best way to start is to just start talking ... and go from there ...
2006-09-24 12:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋