is there anything u cant tell me about being more outgoing and its also really hard for me to talk to guys!!! and i want to bet a boyfriend for homecoming !
2006-09-24 12:46:46 · 10 answers · asked by elibideth07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
omgosh i can help u with this the thing is not to think as them as possible bfs but to think of them as hot and stuff like that but yea that works and as for the out going part just be ur self and smile and say hey to everyone u meet stranger or not its really funn just be a nice person to everyone and try not to talk behind peoples backs (not saying that u do) just have funn join clubs and sports meet new people gain more friends including guys and just have lots of fun thats what i do and i can tell u that it works for me all the time just be u and everyone will love u for it trust me if u need neymore help email me at Peatree_rocks4@hotmail.com and we can talk
2006-09-24 13:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by ~*!Tish!*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its hard for you to talk to people its because of fear and self-doubt. The simple way to deal with something you are afraid or shy about is to do it until you get comfortable with it. If you need to work on self-esteem try cognitive psychology.
Realize this though: guys aren't looking for a really chatty girl. Basically, they want a girl that will compliment him all the time, and make him feel like a stud. They also are impressed by confidence. If you don't feel confident, the rule is, act confident anyway! Keep your head up, and never be afraid to look someone in the eye. Use the method acting approach: "what would a super-popular person act like or say in this situation?" and try to do or say that. That's what the popular people all do. The truth is there are no popular people, only people that have others fooled! Trust me, I've been there and done that.
2006-09-24 13:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally help you with this. You will probably get a lot of the same advice though. First, I would say, don't think about wanting a boyfriend, but I know how much I hate it when people say that to me.
So, about being outgoing...just do what makes you happy, go outside your comfort zone, and if it doesn't work, you will have a funny story to tell. When you talk to guys, try not to think of them as potential boyfriends. Pretend to be confident, and then it will become natural.
2006-09-24 12:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trick is to just talk to them as if you are talking to one of your friends just because they are boys doesn't mean that they are strange creatures they are just the same as you, don't be afraid to make the first move remember just treat them like someone you have known your whole life and you will be fine, people say I am out going because I can walk in to a room not knowing anyone and walk out of that same room saying goodbye to every one and have tons of telephone numbers, just mingle and be the life of the party, listen to what people say and if you can add you comments in then you are on your way, if you are a confident dancer and you know you have the moves, your hips and movements do everything for you, just keep constant eye contact and flash a brilliant smile every time a guy looks at you then you wont need to say a word I promise
2006-09-24 12:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by Dr Danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and be honest with the guys that you are going to talk to. No one on this website can tell you how to be more out going. What you need to do is see what you have now and see what you have to lose from talking with guys. You really do not have anything to lose when you talk to a new guy. I really feel that girls should start asking out guys that they like. If you like a guy ask him out for coffee or a drink and see what he says. The worst thing that can happen is that he says no and then you are were you started and you can try all over again.
2006-09-24 12:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go out of your own comfort zone and go up to people (random or people you know) and say hi to them and smile. Try to talk about anything you think the person is interested in, that way you'll them now that your interested in them. Act enthusiastic if you can as well! You should also join a club you like, you'll make friends fast with people that have similar interests as you!
And most of all just be confident in yourself, and act like yourself!
hope this helps!
2006-09-24 12:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be you...don't worry about what people think about you...if they don't like the real you than they are not worth your time...
Just don't be afraid to say what you think.....just have confidence...a guy loves confidence, but don't be cocky..turn off...
be flirty but not to eager...and don't be all over a ton of differnt guys because than the one you like may think that you are just after anybody..
pick a guy and let him know you're interested but don't appear desperate or to anxious...just have some fun together and get to know each other!Myab eit'll work out..if not there are more fish in the sea!!
Good luck!!
have fun!
2006-09-24 12:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by ArmyGirlfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are talking homecomming you are a teenager right. at your age the guys are just as scared to talk to you. just summom up all your courage, cut a guy from the herd and talk to him. your making more out of this than it really is.
2006-09-24 12:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by MAD MEL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just agree more with people. For example, if you want to go somewhere, and your friend doesn't, try going with your friend. If you need to go where you want, then go there but try to do what others want to do a little more.
2006-09-24 12:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by Traveler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that hard..if ur not outgoing then do u knoe sum1 who is..if u do ask them to teach u..i guess thats all i got
2006-09-24 12:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by fillojeta a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋