My name's Kelly and I am 17. I really want to have a baby I just graduated HS and have my own apartment and have a good job. I am the sweetest grl you will ever meet and have so much love to give out....I just got over a long 3 year relationship and my father and mother were killed by a drunk driver last year...it kills me and I have no-one in the world. I love children and have always dreamed about becoming a mom...I know I am ready so please do not write back I am too young...I am very mature and could handle it...is there anyone who has been it a situation like this before??? Any young grls I could please talk to for gudience
thanks so much! - Kelly M.
2006-09-24 12:28:56 · 9 answers · asked by kelly m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
i understand your pain, i hope you are attend college and decide to have your child while you are married.
good luck in your future.
2006-09-24 12:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by shania02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG Kelly! Im sorry about your parents. I feel you. Im 16, and my storys pretty long. But what the hell.
While I was growing up, I was pretty much alone. My mother suffered and still does suffer of chronic depression. When I was little she would beat me at times for no reason shed tell me shed hate me and tell me many mean things. I had no father because he abodoned me when I was born. I was raped when I was younger and often felt lonely. I didnt have my first (boy) crush until I was like 12. I was rapped again when I was 13 on dec 2nd. After my rape I felt lonely and felt like people didnt understand and often felt i was "too" young to know what i wanted.
Well before my 14th bday I met a guy named Frank he was 23. I got pregnant and she was the most precious thing of my life. When i reached 4 months 3 weeks and 2days I lost her. I had a stillborn baby girl. It has been the hardest thing for me.
I have wanted to have a baby, since. People say that I need attention or that Im trying to replace my dead daughter but im not. I want marriage. I want my home. Im tired of having to be my moms mom. I work and Im a great student. I still live with my mom due to the fact that I cant leave my mom alone and the second thing im waiting is til i turn 18. But pretty much, I dont think you're too young. I think that if you want a baby go for it. Dont worry about what anyone has to say, I bet you'd be a wonderful mother. Go to a sperm bank or find someone willing to father a child. My advice is for you to:
GO FOR IT!
Sincerely yours,
Margret Diana Li Diaz Fley
2006-09-24 20:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by diana li 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kelly, I am Kelley also..lol
You almost sound as if you think that having a baby will fill that empty feeling and void in your life, that is a little concerning. While having a baby is such a miracle, it is a huge commitment physically, financially and emotionally. That is when you "need" people around you the most! I won't try to talk you out of it, but before you decide to do this...think of the baby.
2006-09-24 19:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kelly you already said so you are to young to handle something that is very hard and need to have a lot of time. think about this
who is going to take care of your baby when u are at work
who is going to be the father is his job good is he good with u he what a kid
when the baby get sick and u have to stay with him and cant go to work....
is a lot of things more I am a young mom and it is very hard trust me wait a little bit more longer....
Note: no more jang outs or parties friends shopping etc....
2006-09-24 19:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby because you're lonely is a poor choice to make! Often times after you have the baby, you feel even more depressed and alone. Don't do it. It will be the worst choice of your life to make, at least not right now. You need to be comfortable with yourself to have a child, not feel lonely and depressed.
2006-09-24 19:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by someone_unperfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just yet! Find the right man first! Trust me, your young and you can wait! Friends, or Grandparents, or Cousins always help! You dont want to be a single mom! WAIT!
2006-09-24 19:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married first, and have a baby because you and you husband want one not because you are lonely. If you are as mature as you say you are you should realize you do not have a child because you are lonely
2006-09-24 19:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL
hello mister policeman
2006-09-24 19:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just please get married first!!!!!! at least have the sense to do that.
2006-09-24 19:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mina222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋