I'v been marryed for 2 years and my wife still assist that we still need protection but this is making me not want to have sex with her.What would other guys do if you were in this situation?Or women,why would you still require it.?
2006-09-24 12:28:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not sure why she insists on using condoms after 2 years of marriage. I have 3 suggestions...1. Maybe she doesnt trust you. Maybe she thinks you are going behind her back having sex with other women. 2. Maybe she doesnt want to get pregnant. 3. Maybe she herself has a sexually transmitted disease or is having sex with other men and is protecting you.
If it is because of the disease thing, then BOTH of you need to go and get tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Maybe when the results come back and everything is clear both of you will feel more confident in having sex without the condoms.
If it is a pregnancy thing, then you both need to go to the doctors to discuss alternative birth control methods. Some women do not respond well to the pill. But there are plenty of other methods. IUD's for example, is a simple device put into a woman's uterus to stop becoming pregnant, but that is not 100 percent effective either. There is also another method that is 99 percent effective and that is getting a deproprovera shot every three months which will stop a woman from ovulating and she wont have her periods. There are heaps of alternatives, but you first need to find out why your wife insists on the condoms. Only then will you be able to work out the solution.
2006-09-24 12:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I don't use condoms. We both had physicals before and after we got married, so we knew we were "clean." You should talk to your wife about using an alternate form of birth control. Let her know that you're losing interest in sex altogether, and want to understand why she's insisting on the condom. The only reason my husband and I would use a condom now would be because we were out of our usual method, or because one of us has been doing something we shouldn't.
2006-09-24 12:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There may be a couple of reason. The first is not wanting to get pregnant. The second may be because, let's face it, sex is messy. Using a condom makes it less messy for the bed and less messy for the woman. Those are the only things I can think of unless she has something she doesn't want you to know about and to get.
2006-09-24 12:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by THP 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it is for birth control purposes, than by all means, use it or find another more preferable method. If its due to a potential STDs, both of you should get tested and share the results. I'm thinking either she has herpes or warts, or she thinks you are cheating on her. I think some really open communication is in order, and perhaps some counseling.
2006-09-24 12:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by Vee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes married people use condoms. but, you have to ask yourself have you ever done anything to make your wife not trust you? have you ever cheated on her? that could be a reason why she insists on condoms. if i were you, i'd go get myself tested, and show her the results. that way she knows you are safe to have sex without a condom. after that you can insist the she comes up with some other means of birth control. well, maybe not insist that might get you in trouble you know what i mean good luck
2006-09-24 12:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sweetie in this day and time yeah having protection in marriage is not a bad thing.i don't mean anyone is cheating.It is there are things out there u can contract before marriage and never know u have and just be a carrier of it or it lay dormant in your body till something else kicks in into effect and then its all to late.I know I live with it now ever day.From something that my husband actually got from someone over 8 years ago now and he didn't know and neither did i till it was too late for him and possible me.I have to spend rest of my life in fear and testing.Be careful always.
2006-09-24 13:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by motherof319662000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dunno it sounds a little strange i mean the only thing is if you dont want a kid yet, but cant you get her to go the pill or something? i have been married 4 1/2 years and we never used then, infact we only used them for a few weeks prior to getting wed. Are you sure she isnt trying to cover up a STD or god forbid an affair? sounds a bit iffy to me mate.
2006-09-24 13:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by star28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
**** a condom if your married. We never use one. It really takes away from the whole experience. But that's my opinion. And that is what other forms of preventing pregnancy are for.
2006-09-24 12:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes- some require it becasue they don't want children- but it the two of u for life u can't transmit a disease or anything so outside of baby prevention I don't see the need for it- talk to her about it - pray on it
2006-09-24 12:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by nexus2k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
married couples do still use the condom. if pregnancy is unwanted and birth control, iud's, vasectomies, or tubel ligation is not wanted, that leaves the condom. family planning
2006-09-24 12:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by g49joeybethl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋