My has a friend that she slept with a long time ago, before we where married. Now her and this frinend talked about having a 3 some with me. I personally think this would be cool. My wife and I havetalked about it a little, but i am lookin for some more feed back?
2006-09-24 12:27:11 · 30 answers · asked by chip 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dont do it man it will just open up pandoras box and when it does you will not be abe to close it again! good luck my friend!
2006-09-24 12:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by chris w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, Chip, if I may be so bold as to call you Chip. I would take precautions and have as safe as sex as you can have. I would get tested after your joyful union(s), because you don't know who #3 has slept with over the years.
Now for the other information. It depends hows viseral you want the whole (hole) thing to be. Will this be continued relationship? How will it impact your overall and future marriage? Do you want just sex for sex or do you want something more meaningful? Do you want to take the time to get to know #3 as a person and the special relationship she had with your wife etc? See, it's not really about sex, but about what's between your ears.
Good luck and have phun!
2006-09-24 19:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jilli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't indicate whether she was referring to adding another female or male to the mix. If she says female, it may be because she is exploring her sexuality. If it's a guy are you prepared to watch another man do her?
And what if one of you has a bad experience with it...will the other respect it and never do it again? I think the possibilities are to unlimited to take a chance with it...
When you said I do...you didn't say I do and he does too. And the same thing for your wife.... if it's another woman.
How will she react after seeing you with another woman?
You say you have spoken about it... but no one knows for sure how things may be affected afterwards until afterwards... are you prepared to lose your marriage? Because it could happen!
Think twice before moving on this one... sometimes it is best to leave fatasies as fantasies....
Reality can be harsh...
2006-09-24 20:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being a woman I have a completely different spin on this issue/topic. I see anything outside of you and your wife is adultery it says so in the Bible. You’re committing a sin. I'm not going to preach to you i'm just stating a fact. Good Luck in your desision. I personally would never even considering doing something of the sort. To me it breaks a trust and bond that you and your wife have formed. Being just you and her. By allowing someone into your bed is allowing them into your marriage. Who did you marry? (retorical question)
2006-09-24 19:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.... remember, men are literal and women are way more complex than you think. Why is she asking this now? What are the reasons behind her question? Never assume she is expecting a yes or no answer. Of course your answer is YES, but I have a sneaking suspicion that THAT isn't the real question here... good luck trying to discern what her real meaning is behind the question!
2006-09-24 19:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you obviously don't want to. Don't do it. Why allow yourself to be put in sexual situations that make you uncomfortable? What you do with your body and what you allow others to do to it should be ENTIRELY up to you. Asking for conjecture on the subject is to release control of yourself and throw yourself to the mercy or others. Is this really what you want to do with your sexual life?
Just because you're a man doesn't mean that you're obligated to endorse the 'double-lucky' ideology. I mean look, pal, Kimmy Kimmel's wuss police aren't going to knock down your door and drag you off to the man-farm where they'll teach you how to deal with intimidating situations like '2 women,' etc.
Allow me to help. Here, I'll enable emails on my profile. Go ahead and ask your wife if she'd like to send me a few pics of her and her girlfriend. If I like what I see, I'll talk to them about it.
...Dodlydink: call me! *wink!*
2006-09-24 19:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lobster Dinosaur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it my dear- it may sound wonderful and a dream come true for a guy-but that's what it is for you both-a fantasy that would destroy your marriage in the long run. I can tell you from experience and being a female-she might think so-but you will both regret it!!!
2006-09-24 19:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by dodlydink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why people have threesomes is that they are looking for something else that they are not getting at home.
If she wants to sleep with another person maybe it is because she's not happy with you. If you allow her to do this, chances are she will want to continue doing this and you'll find yourself divorced.
2006-09-24 19:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think through the consequences before you make a decision. It might be an exciting idea but it could have the potentail to ruin your relationship.
2006-09-24 19:30:28 · answer #9 · answered by sticky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is in favor of it and it includes you yes go for it! if I was you it would not be a question or added feed back the world would be charge or full speed ahead or ramming speed
(my answer was base on her friend being female) and anatomically correct parts for a female
2006-09-24 19:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Paul G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother to marry somebody then?
To each his own.
If you both think it won't bother you, do it. But don't think it's going to be the same between the two of you after that.
2006-09-24 19:30:51 · answer #11 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋