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should she give it up for adoption
or get an abortion
let my mom take him (its a boy)
PLEASE HELP!!!!! Thank you!

2006-09-24 12:13:23 · 41 answers · asked by Carissa T 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Newborn & Baby

oh ya the daddy is my best friend he is 16

2006-09-24 12:16:44 · update #1

41 answers

Oh and they are letting you make this choice? How old are you, where is your mom and dad, who is the babies daddy, and above all else, who in hell would give a nine year old child an ABORTION?!?!?! I think this is way way bogus.... NINIE year old girls dont even get their periods.... I was WAY overdeveloped and *STILL* did not get mine till I was 12....

2006-09-24 12:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by cricketwinner@sbcglobal.net 4 · 2 4

I hope this is a prank.

For those uninformed people claiming a 9 year old getting pregnant is 'impossible'... go check out the youngest mother recorded. She was 5 and had begun menstruating at 3.

Personally, I think she should have an abortion. Carrying a baby to term that young heavily inflates the risk of death or serious permanent injury. Of course, what I think really doesn't matter. In the case of a girl this young, the parents will be deciding it, not you or her.

If this is a true case, the police will also get involved, and hopefully the sick bugger who raped a 9 year old will get roomed with a nice, big, ugly, HIV infected convict for the next 20 years.

2006-09-24 12:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kiari 3 · 2 0

I am going to go on the assumption that this is a legit question and everything you have said is the truth.
1. You know the sex of the baby so it is too late for an abortion.
2. Give the baby up for adoption. There are many people who want to adopt. Keeping this baby will scar your sister for life. She will have to grow up telling her son that he is her brother. She is young, she can get past this if she does not see the child every day of her life.
3. If you have relatives who live in another state send your sister to live with them until after the baby is born, she does not need schoolmates and their families knowing about this.
4. CALL THE POLICE AND HAVE THE 16 year old boy prosecuted for RAPE.
5. Your Mom needs to spend more time with your little sister, she needs parental supervision.
6. Your sister also needs therapy to get past this.

2006-09-24 12:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by ebosgramma 5 · 3 0

First of all, get rid of your best friend. What kind of 16 year old sleeps with a 9 year old?

Second the adoption/abortion thing is up to her. I know it is hard to make that kind of decision at her age but she is the one that has to live with the choice. I dont see how she would be able to take care of the baby. I am totally voting for the adoption because I have a son that I adopted 2 years ago and he is the joy of my life.

You may want to talk to the doctor about the health issues of a 9 year old having a baby. It may do some permanent damage on her growing body.

2006-09-24 12:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by GEE-GEE 5 · 1 0

Your sister is 9 years old and pregnant??? Wow!! What is she doing having sex at her age? As her older sibiling you should be a little more responsible and clear with your friends about what they do with your sister because your 16 year old friend having sex with your 9 year old sister is just wrong!! But to answer your question,

YES she should have an abortion!!! Although the earlier she goes in to have an abortion the better for her and less likely it will cause any permanent damage to her so she can still have kids in the future if she decides to do that. They might not even perform an abortion on a child that young even if she has parental consent because she simply may be just too young! I would definitely check into that ASAP first.

You can call your local Planned Parenthood in your state. Either online or call 411 for the number.

2006-09-24 12:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie* 4 · 4 0

Your sister is 9 or 19? At 9 she is not old enough or mature enough to understand what a sexual relationship really is. If she did, she would not be in this situation. As for her keeping the child, she is not emotionally ready to raise a child. She is still a child herself. There is also a very good chance that the pregnancy will not survive past the first trimester. Her body is still underdeveolped and will have a hard time sustaining a pregnancy. I personally do not believe in abortion, except under extreme circumstances. If she was not raped or molested, then she should carry the baby to full term if she can. She should then give it up for adoption to a family that desperately wants a child and can provide for him emotionally as well as financially. She is not ready to be a mother, she will only be hurting the baby if she keeps it. This child deserves a chance at a good life. Give him that chance!~

2006-09-24 12:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by momoftwo 3 · 0 1

Assuming this is a legit question:
#1, if you know it's a boy, then you've obviously been to a doctor, so ANY responsible doctor would alert the proper authorities regarding this situation.
#2, there's obviously a lack of proper supervision on SOMEONE'S part in your house. I can't imagine that it's the ideal place to raise a baby. I think that if this baby even lives adoption is your only option.
#3, GET SOME NEW FRIENDS. If this is the way your best friend treats your sister I can only imagine what he'd do to you.

2006-09-24 15:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer D 1 · 2 0

Does your mom know? If your mom is willing to get legal custody of the baby that might be a good option, but you really need to talk with your sister and your mom about this, having a baby changes everything, not for the bad but things do change =) trust me Im a new young mom myself, and you dont want your sister to grow up and regret having an abortion. I have a son and having him was the best thing that ever happened to me,Good Luck =)

2006-09-24 12:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I hope this is a joke. But you can get your period at nine, and can get pregnant. I do not believe in abortion, even so if you already know it is a boy, she is too far along. They may have to do c-section and I would definitely give the baby up for adoption, unless your mother is willing to take care of the baby.This is not the baby's fault.

2006-09-24 12:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Bird79 2 · 0 0

Listen, when a 16 year old boy has sex with a 9 year old girl, that's statutory rape.

I hope your question is a joke. I really do. But if it's not, the parents of both children, because that's what they both are--children--should be held accountable.

The baby, if there really is one, will need to be taken care of by decent parents, ones with some sense and maturity. I suggest she either give the boy up for adoption or allow a clear-headed family member to care for him. (That excludes both sets of parents/grandparents).

2006-09-24 12:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by allaboutthewords 4 · 0 0

I believe it may happen. If is more than 1 month is too late for abortion. Let the mother keep the baby, so she can keep studying and get a degree. That way she may be able to take care of it when she is prepare. Just advice the girl, if it happens again, her mother will not do it again, so she is going to have to start working so she will see how hard is going to be her life by having to work so hard to support her kids. Just help her as much as you guys can.

2006-09-24 12:28:30 · answer #11 · answered by AnieFTM40 2 · 0 0

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