all opinons welcome i am 18 with my boyfriend who is 28 i love him to death, he makes me feel important, happy, he saved me from my mom (abusive) my ex(also abusive) i NEVER ate anything unitl him, im his second girlfriend and he lost his virginity to me i might be pregnant with his kid we both act the same age im mature for my age...and we live together been together for a year on the 29th...he is the most important person to me (more important han my own life) i would die for him...i feel alone when isn't there with me we have so much in common what we dont have in common make us mre compatable (he loves to eat i love to cook) my parents love him cept my mom...(she don like anyone calls me a mistake..:s) and his family see's me as the daughter i never had..as i see them as the family i never had...but what do you think is it wrong im with him... is this love (i love him like nothing else matters when i am with im the world dont excist) :)
2006-09-24 12:07:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is how I see it. You are legal and you are with someone that cares about you and that makes you happy. You are lucky. If you are pregnate, he seems like the type to take care of a kid and if not, his family seems like they would help. You should be happy.
2006-09-24 12:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you love each other and I think that you have become a much happier person since he walked into your life. God may have sent you this special best-friend because he heard your cries and prayers to get away from all the abuse and find real love. I don't know what to say about your mom. No mother should ever tell her child that he/she was a mistake. It damages a child's self-esteem. It is obvious that your mother has some problems/issues that run deep. Pray for her and forgive her, as a matter of fact, once you have done it--tell her that you pray for her and that you forgive her. Forgiveness is a strong tool that can open hearts, heal relationships and make people feel brand new. Do not let your mother or any one take your joy away. When she tries to get to you or starts the verbal abuse, ignore her Or tell her all the things that you love about her and appreciate about her. Tell her you are going to only tell her the good things about her because you love her and because you know that she judges her own self all the time and she knows better than anybody what her flaws and faults are.
2006-09-24 12:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything wrong with you or him. As long you are 18 and if he feels the same for you, congratulations! But understand this, some people are lucky to find someone, some don't. I am a strong, independent woman who still haven't found someone that share that kind of love. But I refuse to believe that you feel you can't live without him. Things happen for a reason and yet you have a long way to go. Just be happy!
2006-09-24 12:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not know all the ins and outs of your relationship but the way your describing your feelings seem more like obsession. like when you say that you view his life as more important then yours. you should view both of your lives as equally as important. but it may just be the way im reading it. you just want to be careful of becoming dependent on the other person. and like i said before this is just my opinion but the reason that you needed to be saved from you abusive ex is because you were dependent on him and he prolly made most of yours and his decisions. and you were so attached to him like the feeling that you would be lost without him that you couldnt force yourself to leave an abusive relationship. so just be careful that you dont base your every choice on what he wants or doesnt want. remember that a relationship is 50/50.
2006-09-24 12:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by joker222798 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the American dream, glad you got it early and often, we all want the same thing, here the prisoner dilemma, remember the song word "hold back the water, gotta... have time to burn" well we live in adversity now and you seem to have adjusted to a love life objective. but time waits for the pyramids. time you'll see can pull everything apart so enjoy while the idea is mind bending
2006-09-24 12:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I see wrong with this, or unhealthy, is where you said, "He saved me." You cannot put all of your stock and your hope into "MAN". I encourage you to find a relationship with God. Put your hope in GOD. Your true savior. All that hurt in your family can be healed.
As far as the relationship. It seems incredibly sweet. Keep God the focus and the center and you'll be fine. I pray you are blessed. Abundantly.
*wink*
2006-09-24 12:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by skevans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't get to choose who we love, were not supposed to. You can't help who you fall in love with, age is just a number. Love is a feeling, and only you can answer that question. (Is what your feeling love?)
2006-09-24 12:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by GRR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should NEVER ever love anyone or anything more than you love yourself...except for the creator. It seems to me as if your self estem is at it's all time low. i think it's great to love someone but it sounds like u are depending on his love wayyy to much.... just something to think about.
2006-09-24 12:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by apple martini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you could just be in love-Love is not a bad thing!
2006-09-24 12:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can we say codependent? Go to a shirk. It will help.
2006-09-24 12:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by jell77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋