my sister is a lesbian and me and my mam went out to eat in our fave resturant and we bumped into my sister and her girlfriend. i have no issues with her being gay but i have an issue with her holding hands with her gf in a resturant that i am a regular customer and what they will think? time and a place for everything
2006-09-24 11:58:07 · 47 answers · asked by tinkerbell 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
outside my job she did have her tongue down her throat and i asked her then to stop it ppl said it to me
2006-09-24 12:12:57 · update #1
If my sister did that, she's be shopping for a plastic surgeon to remove my foot from her *** still.
2006-09-24 13:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, if the shoe was on the other foot and she got mad because you were holding hands with your boyfreind at a regular eating place of hers, would it be ok for her to be mad at you? I don't agree with you, but I can see how the way society is, and how you may be embarrassed because of her lifestyle due to others reactions. But honestly, what is more important? Your sisters feelings of self worth or whatever ignorant things others may say because of her?
How do you think it makes her feel, where she cannot openly express her love, and yet every straight person can? As long as she isn't shoving her tongue down some random persons throat (something no person, straight or otherwise should be doing openly), you should stand by her. How do you think it makes her feel, to be so openly critized in society for following her heart, and then to have her own flesh and blood stand there and agree with them? And even if you don't mean any harm by it, by telling her that (in so many words) she cannot hold hand with her gf, you are reinforcing that idea that gay people are not equels with straight people. And that hurts.
If someone will go as far as talk bad about you or your sister because of something so trivial, is that someone you would want to consider a friend?Blood is always thicker than water. Don't allow their ignorance to hurt the relationship you two have.
Good luck.
2006-09-24 12:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Nixxy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes and no. Yes, if when she sees you she goes out of her way to embarrass you by over acting her PDA with her girlfriend because she knows it upsets you. And No if she's just being a partner to her girlfriend and acts as a normal couple would act in public. Holding hands doesn't sound bad though. I hold hands with my boyfriend in public. That's a sign of love and the world would be a better place if more couples held hands. If your sister is happy just try to be happy for her. She could be sad and not having anyone to hold hands with. How would that make you feel? Just something to think about. There's only one qualified Judge in this world the rest of us need to remember that and accept what we cannot change.
2006-09-24 13:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot say you have "no issues with her being gay" yet have a problem with her holding hands with her girlfriend. You cannot come to terms with your sister's lifestyle until you are honest with your self.
Can't you just accept you sister "as is"? It's not like she was making out at the table, which most people are uncomfortable with regardless of the genders.... even male/female. If you love your sister, and she loves you, accept her completely. A sister can be the person who is "there" for you for the rest of you life. Be "there" for her now, if you can.
2006-09-24 12:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you care about what other people think!? Holding hands it's nothing too unusual for a couple in one restaurant, it doesn't show missrespect.It looks that you DO have a little issue about your sister being gay, but you don't have to be ashamed, you have to speak with your sister openly and tell her your worries and doubts. Congratulations for being a good sister!
2006-09-24 12:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by 𝒶𝓂𝒶𝓎𝓊𝓀𝒾 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right to be angry.
Clearly there is no need for your sister to behave this way, even if she prefers to share a bed with a girl the whole hand holding kissing thing is unnescessary and probably done deliberately to wind you up.
What on earth does your mother think, she must be glad she has you to hopefully provide grandchildren for the future.
For many elderly people grandchildren make life bearable.
Gays are generally too self obsessed, too selfish, to care about these things until they get old, and no one cares about them because they are no ones parents.
2006-09-24 14:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by "Call me Dave" 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you have an issue with your sister if she was holding hands with her boyfriend?? Probably not!!!! Love is love and if you do not like to see your sister holding hands with her girlfriend, then you have an issue with her being gay! Get over it!! You are probably feeling embarrassed for yourself!
there is absolutely nothing wrong with public displays of affection, straight or gay. If the people in the restaurant have an issue with her being gay, they would have said something.
celebrate the diversity of life and do not worry about what others think - it is their problem - not yours!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-24 12:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Fluffy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What if it were your brother and HIS girlfriend? Would you feel the same way? Get over it. How your sister behaves with her girlfriend is not about you. She has a right to be angry with you for making an issue about it, or for not defending her if somebody else said something to you about it! Your her sister, you should have her back!
2006-09-24 13:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you have absolutely no right to be angry at your sister for holding her gf's hand in public.
Kissing is different. If it is in a situation where you can truly say it would be wrong for ANYONE to kiss (church comes to mind, making out in a restaurant, maybe) gay OR straight, then I guess you can be offended. But you MUST apply the same rules to straight couples that you do gay couples.
2006-09-24 12:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have a right to your own opinion, and a right to feel uncomfortable about things you don't understand. but why are you angry? if it was a guy she was holding hands with would you have a problem with the same public display of affection? It sounds like you have some issues that you need to learn deal with..and maybe you can learn to accept your sister for who she is. do you get along with your her? maybe you need to talk to her. of find a local chapter of PFLAG and attend a meeting.
2006-09-24 12:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your not totally comfortable with your sisters sexuality and you have to deal with it..
.(you do have an issue with it otherwise you wouldn't be asking this question)
..shes not doing anything wrong .Why are you worried about what staff at the restaurant think?All they will care about is if the bill is paid.We aren't still in the dark ages surely.
2006-09-24 12:05:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋