2006-09-24 11:33:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am an adult child that experienced the death of my sister due to my parent's choice to drink and drive. My mom had another child 2 yrs later. My sister and I have been close inspite of the age difference. My mom has always treated my sister as a buddy/friend. Now at 88 yrs old both my sister and mother are angry at me but can't give me a reason. I am the bad guy. It hurts because all of my life I have kept the secrets of my childhood to protect my parents, bailed my mom out financially, and I thought I had been a good &loyal daughter. Jealousy, quilt, and anger plays a large part in how she treats me. Can't come to terms with end of life issues
2014-12-09 12:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by linda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I dont know where you live, but I dont think you can generalise mums and lump them all in one basket. I know as a mum myself that I dont show favouritism towards my kids. I will admit to treating them differently, not because I care about one more than the other. But because each of them has different personalities and needs. If you are having a problem with your mother maybe you should sit down with her and tell her how you feel. SHe may be completely unaware of how you feel. If she has a drinking problem she may not be able to help her behaviour and need to seek help herself. You may be the only one who can help her. Good luck anyway.
That's really good advise finaldx am in a similiar situation and sometimes going it on your own is the only way! And no one else should tell you 'but they are family'
2006-09-24 11:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is a sad story behind this question. Sometimes, in order for you to become the best person you can be as an adult, the best thing you can do it cut those ties. Create your own family and traditions and don't look back.
My husband has nothing to do with either his mom, his brother or his two half sisters. He is better for it. If I could only get my sis-in-law to do the same, she would be infinitely happier. They push each other's buttons in ways no other person can, and she can be miserable for days or weeks after one phone conversation with her sister or brother.
2006-09-24 11:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by finaldx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very obivious the mom has some serious problems that need to be looked at. Dont take anything personal for now and try and coax her to get help.Sounds like she is very unhappy. So for now u have to be the adult ok Good luck Curious 206
2006-09-24 11:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by Curious 2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be talking about your mother because I'm a mom and I don't do that.Plus I work with children and the majority of kids moms are good moms.So my advise to u is to talk to your mother.Tell her how u feel...Hopefully it is all just a big misunderstanding.If it isn't then all you can do is move on and don't let her ruin your life...She will if you let her get to you...Good luck
2006-09-24 11:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't lie nor do I show favoritism. I drink on occassion, but not sh!t faced. So, not all moms are like this.
2006-09-24 11:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good mother does non of that !!!
2006-09-24 11:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what? I think that's just your white trash, idiot mom. Mine isn't that way.
2006-09-24 11:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't
2006-09-24 11:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋