I think I did something stupid.........?

Question

I went out last night and got completely off my face drinking too much to the point where I dont remember going to bed! anyway I am not proud of this, however i was out with a friend i hadnt seen for ages and her boyf. we went back to her house (at this point I wasnt too drunk!) after a few massive drinks its starts to get hazy. i remember my friends boyf coming on to me, and i kept saying no, and then i was waking up. i v. vaguely recall him trying to kiss me and am really scared that i may have kissed him back, i am really disappointed with myself and am just really hoping that nothing more happened! should i tell my friend????? please dont judge me.

Answer 1

I wouldn't mention this to anyone - you have learned your lesson and won't make the mistake again.
As you don't really know what happened, I wouldn't upset your friend over what could just be a miss understanding on your part.

Answer 2

You are kinda caught at this point. If you tell your friend she might hate you and never talk to you while believing him that it was your fault. OR you can not tell her in hopes that nothing is ever found out and live with the guilt for the rest of your life. OR you can tell her and she will believe you, dump him and be friends with you forever for the honesty you gave her. The latter only happens in the movies and some limited cases so if it happens, I'll be surprised. If I had to vote(BTW, this has never happened to me) I would say you should live with the guilt since its your fault and hope she doesn't find out. And in the future either buy a three-lock box or keep your drinking to a down low when around other girlfriends cheating dudes!

Answer 3

I'm not judging you but I really hope you won't let yourself be trapped in a similar situation again. You could have ended up with a sex pervert or someone who is going to rape and kill you. All sorts of terrible things could happen to a drunk girl. You are precious to your parents, your friends and yourself, why allow yourself to be used and treated with no respect? Besides, excessive drinking does nothing for your health. You may be young now but you never know what price to pay for later in life.
Perhaps you have a problem with self-esteeem and subconsciously want attention from men which you would otherwise not get? Think about this and see a counsellor whether this is the root of your drinking.

Answer 4

With friends like him you will never need enemies, he sounds a right piece of low down scum trying to take advantage of you when your drunk, if something did happen then basically he took advantage of you and that is against the law, its up to you to decide what your going to do about it, he is probably the sort that will deny anything happened and blame you, do you feel like anything more happened and I think you would know, if nothing did then stay away from him as much as you can in future and if something did then go to the police and tell your friend why.

Answer 5

Now you know people don't judge people,LOL. I wouldn't say anything to her about it, it was an honest mistake and you weren't the only one there too. I would be a little bit more careful. If you are asked about it say I don't remember anything that happened and you won't be totally lying. And if her b/f comes to you tell him that if he doesn't stop right there you will tell her. Good luck.

Answer 6

I would tell your friend, i think its a bit scary what the guy was doing if you were saying no and he kept trying any way. If he could do that to his girlfriends friend, i would not like to think what he is capable of. I think you need to be very careful in speaking to the boy friend, he may not want to lose your friend as he may want to have his cake and eat it and therefore may twist things to make himself sound better.
Speak to your friend, you don't know if you did anything. Honesty i think is the best policy, where was your friend at this point..

Do you really think its best for your friend to continue to go out with this guy, he sounds like serious bad news.

Answer 7

Your friend has a really horrible boyfriend,he took advantage of the situation and even though you said no he kept trying.Don't put yourself in a situation like that again,enjoy a few drinks to the extent that you can still have control in any environment.Ask your friend how she is,have a chat,chances are he said nothing.But ask yourself this if he was your boyfriend would you like to know?????

Answer 8

The first thing to do is to find out what really happens. Talk to her boyfriend. If it's your close friend tell her, because it can become a problem in future - you could be tormented with guilt. It's hard, but the best thing to do. Be honest. All the best and good luck!

Answer 9

Honestly - I think in this case you may be better off if you claim to remember NOTHING of last night - it sounds like you didnt go out to cheat intentionally and if anything did happen that it was him who pushed for it.
Id ease off the ol alcohol in future though - you could land yourself in serious trouble in the future!!!

Answer 10

Well I think you should just go up and ask him since after all you still need to know that if something did happen that he used the proper protection. And maybe you should stop hanging out with them so much if he's trying to push you into something when your not in the proper mind to defend yourself. Oh and where was your friend in all this?

Answer 11

Don`t worry about it, you were all drunk and you can`t be held responsible. Only tell your friend unless you feel really guilty. And if he tries it on again, then warn him off by saying that you respect your friend enough to tell her what has been going on.