he scapes his plates as he eats.he mimmics me when i speak and he cant make a decision on his own.
2006-09-24 10:46:33 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds alot like me
2006-09-24 10:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you happily married? It sounds as though there's more to it than these simple annoyances. Maybe the two of you needs to sit down and have a good chat, either with each other, or perhaps with a marriage counsellor?
A marriage takes effort on both parties. It's always best to deal with issues when it first surfaces before it gets to the "snowballing" effect - becoming accumulated and more complicated.
Your husband should be your best friend and you ought to be able to talk to him about these annoyances. Maybe you're doing some things that annoy him, too, however unintentionally. Bring it out in the open and talk to each other.
Take care.
2006-09-24 11:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by ♫ Jemmy~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a he! That is why it is so important to know someone for a very looong time before marriage! I married once and didn't know my hubby was an alcoholic or that he was abusive! I found out very quickly! Try to talk to him about his irritable and annoying habits. Tell him it keeps you from being in the "mood"! That will get his attention! Honestly tell him that it is really bothering you and that you both need to work on your relationship. These annoyances are just symptoms to what the real honest problem is! Read Dr Phil's book on relationships and you will understand it more!Best wishes and I pray your marriage works much better!
2006-09-24 10:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a shrink, but if I were, I'd probably say your husband is "passive-aggressive". He wants to hurt you, (probably because he was hurt, most likely in his childhood), but he was taught NOT to...and he cares for you. So he resorts to using what he thinks are things you can't pinpoint as "abuse" (mocking, relying on you, annoying you).
He's trying to piss YOU off so YOU have to make a decision (will you or will you not stay with him? He obviously doesn't feel worthy). If you DO, then he can blame whatever happens on YOU, not himself (he's afraid of decision-making as well as commitment and intimacy).
You need to get into couple's counseling ASAP (assuming you want to save this rel.). If he STILL refuses to take responsibility for his annoying you (yes it IS deliberate!)...then think about whether you really want to spend the next 20+ years w/someone who's basically a big toddler!!!!
2006-09-24 11:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember this: Men NEVER really grow up! I've been married, and have had a few long term relationships, we(women) just mature faster than they do. You just have to learn to "overlook" certain things about the one you're with and keep your focus on all the things you love about that person. I'm sure there are things about you he's not too fond of, but that's all part of a relationship no matter what kind it is...compromise and acceptance. He'll mature more in the next couple years, but you have to be patient. Men need a woman mentor to learn manners and how to treat people. The decision making part, he has to learn that on his own. One way you could help him is by forcing him to make a decision. If he can't, you guys just have to miss out cause he couldn't make a choice. He'll learn eventually...Good luck and I wish you both the best marriage!
2006-09-24 11:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes when there are bigger problems between two people, the smaller things seem to be magnified. Sounds like the two of you need a weekend away and some good ol fashioned communications about what is really bothering you.
2006-09-24 10:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every man has things that will annoy you and I'm sure you do things that annoy him!! Let him know in a nice way what you don't like; but he won't stop instantly!!
It took my husband 10 years to stop some bad habits!!
They do eventually grow up or you just get used to things!!
2006-09-24 10:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is childish and immature.
Your husband needs a reality check and you'll have to be the one to give it to him.
Tell him if he doesn't grow up and start acting like a man that you're going to leave him.
You don't need to be with someone who acts so ridiculous and disgusting... so scare him a bit so that he can try to change... if he doesn't then you need to have a long talk with him... and if the behavior persists, leave him.
2006-09-24 10:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
key word in that question is husband. They all have their quirks, but thats part of love! Take the good with the bad and all those other cliches!
I'd bet there are things you do that drive him nuts too! Not trying to be a jerk, but its the truth, if they didn't drive us nuts, then we'd have nothing to complain about!
2006-09-24 10:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by lolo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is the same annoying person you married.
You just were not paying attention and seeing the red flags before the wedding.
2006-09-24 11:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he was to go somewhere for maybe a week-those would probably be the things you would miss about him-lol. My husband is too annoying-lol.
2006-09-24 19:23:46 · answer #11 · answered by gee-geeofmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋