my doctor told me if i had an abortion i would be infertile is this true?

Question

i am 31 and he said because of my age there would be a 90% chance i would not have a baby again

i dont want an abortion but my bf wanted me to and he did not believe the dr

Answer 1

Its very possible, you can also consider placing the child up for adoption if your really not wanting to have a child. Do you have other children? What about the father? Would he want it? Or someone in your family? If your want to have a child in the future I would not chance it. But it is your body! But many people would like to have a child and can't.
I have a Friend that hasn't been able to have a child. She and her husband have been married for 7 years. She is going to be forty soon. They have looked into adoption.

Just recently her husband left her because it was she that is unable to conceive. Her husband of a prior marriage was a slut, and gave her pelvic inflammatory disease. She had to have one of your tubes removed, and they attempted to remove the scar tissue on the other, but its still partially blocked and her chances of having biological child is very slim.
Now the chance of adopting a child is questionable, she says she may still try, but she wants the child to have a mother and a daddy. Right now she is just trying to get through the break up of her marriage.
You will be in my prayers, good-luck Hun!

Answer 2

Your doctor seems to be pro-life and is mulipulating his belief on a fact that is not true so you will not have an abortion. Speak to plannedparenthood or a clinic that specializes in abortions as they will have the right facts. Your doctor doesn't perform the procedure. Therefore, his knowledge is as good as nothing.

You will not be "infertile" by the procedure. Either being 31 or 16, still same procedure and same difference. You still are very young. Because you are now entering your 30's doesn't mean you are now "old". Infertility is constructed by excess scarring or an infection left untreated.

Now, abortion does carry risks as any other surgical or medical issue does. Depends on which abortion option you take due to being how far along you are. The RU or the surgical removal. If surgical removal, can risk (no matter what age this is done) excess bleeding/hemorage or scarring on cervical or other reproductive organs due to the tools used. Abortion is however safer from most procedures done and most people I know who did have an abortion did not have the bad side effects. yet, it is still present since every person's body will re-act differently.

If you do not want an abortion, then don't get one. If your boyfriend wants one, do not get one unless you want one.

If he does not support your decision to go through the pregnancy, then it seems you have another choice to make on whether staying with this jer.k or throwing him to the curb.

Answer 3

I have heard that abortions do have an impact on your fertility. When I had my baby one of the first questions that the Dr. asked was is I had ever had an abortion. When I asked why she said that women who have had an abortion run a higher risk of miscarriage.

Plus if you don't want the abortion don't have it. Your boyfriend should have been a little safer if he didn't want a child. Single mothers live wonderful happy lives everyday. Just from my personal experience the most precious gift in life is your children. Nothing in this world can ever replace them. They are a blessing. Every time that you feel your baby moving inside you should thank the Lord. When you look into that baby's eyes for the first time you should thank the Lord. You have been blessed. You should not worry with abortion if you want your baby. Now in this day and time not many things are cause for celebration but you have been blessed with something so special a baby to bring you happiness and joy everyday. When you look into that baby's eyes you won't believe the happiness that you will feel! Think about this too your biological clock is ticking. If it were me and I wanted to keep my baby (which is a part of me) I would not hesitate to stand up for it against my boyfriend. Anyway I wish you the best of luck with your decision. I hope that I have helped you.

Answer 4

That is not so true. I have a neighbour who are older than you and because she doesn't want to have another baby, she had 2x abortion, because she already have 3 kids. Unfortunately, it happen to have had another baby after 6 months. I guessed that would be depend on how active your partners sperms is and how able to response your eggs to his sperms.
Don't believe on what all the doctors says. They're not all the time right because they know that. But I guess it would be a good idea is follow your own instinct.
One thing only to ask you is why you wanted to have an abortion? I know it's legal now but still it's a small living you are trying to kill inside you. Don't be so offend, I'm just asking you and answer your question. Well, try to think of it million times before you make a big decision of your life.

Answer 5

I don't know what the statistics are, but I have read that there is an increased risk of infertility as well as in increased risk of not being able to carry the baby to term for some women. I would get a second opinion from another doctor if this is a concern.

Well, in my opinion, your boyfriend should have thought of that before, shouldn't he? If you can support the child, both financially and emotionally, even without your boyfriend, then have and keep the baby. If not, why not have it and give it up for adoption? Newborns are always in demand.

Answer 6

Bafongu.

Do you know when your mother went through menopause?

Do you know if your doctor is fanatically anti-abortion?

How ready are you to raise a child?

Don't forget that adoption is an answer.

Don't forget that a second opinion or a change of doctor is also an answer.

I think when you hit age 40 or so (assuming you don't go through menopause in your thirties), there's a higher risk of bearing a Down's syndrome child (this is a genetic-mutation problem, trisomy-21, I believe, which means that in position 21 of 23, where there should be 2 chromosomes there are 3). I'm not sure whether maternal age is a factor in other congenital conditions. I think your doctor thinks that since you are over 30, you already have hit some sort of age barrier. He may be working with outdated information.

If mom went through menopause at 35, then I think that raises your own chances of going through menopause at 35.

I'm not sure whether there would be scar tissue from the abortion (with a dilation & curettage, there might be?). I think that would raise the risk of infertility.

My own advice would be to have the child and give him/her up for adoption. I am Catholic, and this is a factor in this advice.

Get a second opinion and maybe a third opinion before you make this decision. :-(

Answer 7

You need to understand that there are many people who are against abortion for ANY reason, and they will tell you a lot of BS to try to talk you out of it. The chances of your being sterile after an abortion are very very very small.

While I don't really care for abortions, there are many times in a person's life when an abortion would definitely be the best thing for them. You can always have kids later. Don't let these people talk you into something that you don't want.....It's YOU who is pregnant and who would be stuck with a kid for the next TWENTY years or more.

Answer 8

I have never heard of age being a factor. I would definately get a second and maybe third opinion. There is the possiblity that your doctor is just anti abortion period,and not willing to help you make what ever decision is right for you personally. Hang in there!

Answer 9

As i understand it, having an abortion now would make it more likely that you would miscarry later, but 90%? I doubt it. Understand that doctors can have there own agendas, too. Unless there is some other mitigating factor in your medical history, it sounds like this doctor may just be against abortion on moral grounds, and is trying to take your choice away from you through intimidation. A second opinion is definitely warranted.

Answer 10

well, first and foremost, if you don't want an abortion, don't have it! it's of no business to your boyfriend to decide that, in actual fact what you just said makes him sound like a total asshole to me and the best advice i can give you is to get rid of him before he gets any worse (and he will). believe me, even being single is being better than being with a guy who thinks he has the right to decide over your pregnancy. there is no justification for that whatsoever! as for your actual question, yes, there is a chance that an abortion will leave you infertile, due to possible infections, injury to the womb, scarring etc. it is, however, way lower than 98%.