I get mad at my boyfriend when he watches football should i be getting mad at him.?

Question

Every day my bf is off work we have to run tons of errons, bills, shopping, etc.. but when we are suddled down at home and football or ne sport is on he is glued. He doesnt pay ne attention to me and our babies! and when i do try and talk to him he doesnt even realize it. Than later he'll ask a question and ill say i all ready told you and you answered me when you were watching t.v. i dont understand, he listens to his family like his dad and sister? why doesnt he pay attention to us. I always listen to everything he says and i believe it is very important in a healthy relationship.

Answer 1

That really bothers me, I feel sad for you...you need to call the TV repair store to learn how to unplug the TV so when it is time for him to watch it ...the Tube won't work....but he really needs to not be selfish...you need to talk to his family and tell them your problem since he listens to them....good luck..

Answer 2

No, I don't think you should get mad at him. I'm sure he works hard and watching football is maybe just his way to unwind. It's obviously something he's very passionate about. Instead of getting mad, why not try to understand what he likes so much about it. Take an intrest in it, it may bring you closer together. However, I DO think that moderation is the key here. Perhaps he can watch the game while he is doing other things like paying attention to the children etc. I'm sure he's capable of multi-tasking right? It could also be that he dosen't realize that he's upsetting you. Have you brought this up with him when a game isn't on? Approach him about this when there is a situation when you know you'll have his complete and undivided attention...like right before you have sex for example. LOL...I'm sure it'll ruin the mood, but trust me, you'll have his full attention.

Answer 3

So you do the shopping, errands and bills on his day off. And then he is supposed to pay attention to you and babies. I thought you said it was his day off. Don't get me wrong....I'd hate being ignored by my man....but I get the impression this guy is working and taking care of his responsibilites to you and the kids. Maybe a little down time isn't unreasonable. Especially if he's home and he's just watching football.

Don't make the mistake of making him miserable when he gets to be home. He obviously cares for his family. But everyone needs that down time when all they have to do is nothing. Try to take some of your responsibilites off of him, especially if you are not working. Take the kids and go pay the bills while he's at work. Make sure the kids get to bed an hour or two before he has to crash when he is working. Use that time to share your day, what the kids did, talk, and love each other. See what you can do to make his time off free time. The sooner you get home the more receptive he'll be to giving you some attention. Do prevent another pregnancy as that is going to seriously cut into the little time you have together now. Show him how you love having him there. Curl up on the couch next to him and let the babies play at his feet while he watches the game. Put the baby gate in the door so you're not jumping up and down. Just be beside him. This is contentment. It doesn't matter what's on...you are together....he'll want to explain how the game is played to you. Let him teach you....it will make him feel important...and he will think it is cool when you pick up on what he teaches you. Be there when half time happens. People chat at half time. Give up the couple of hours it takes to play the game to be with him. He sounds like a good man and well worth the little bit of compromise.

Answer 4

Men and women function differently. Women are generally better at doing several things at once, while men are generally better at focusing at one thing. It's like when a man is for example sharpening a knife and you try to talk to him he will be like "don't talk to me, I'm sharpening this knife!". So you cannot expect him to remember what you said when he was watching TV. Saying things like "I've already told you" is not nice, you're trying to master him and that will make him listen to what you are saying even less. As for the behavior itself: if he doesn't do anything at all and just watches TV - don't get mad, but talk to him. It's not an acceptable behavior. On the other hand it sounds from your story that he already had a busy day and perhaps deserves a little time "off" where he can relax in front of TV?

Answer 5

I totally understand your situation. My ex was crazy about foodball no matter how hard I work to pay our bills and keep our house clean, etc. We broke up several years ago and now I have a really happy relationship with a guy who doesn't care about watching sports on TV. We both think it's a wealthy countries' selfish entertainment. I mean, does NFL contribute anything for people or enviroment on this planet? I don't think so...Oh I'm so glad of my life without football.

Answer 6

Honey, I think its just something you need to get use too.I think all men have that same switch in their heads that tunes everyone out when football season is here.He listens to his dad and sister because he's trying to be respectful, he doesn't listen to you because he's expecting you to be understanding and supportive of his wants and needs. Play with your kids, take a bath, play on the computer. There's a lot of things to do when they are into their games. If you got the money go shopping, and if you ask him while he's watching a game he may just hand over his whole wallet! It's not really all that bad.

Answer 7

Yes you should get mad at him he needs to divide his time between you and the kids and the sports t.v. Of course he hears his family because if he don,t they will have something to say to him and I am sure it won't be nice and he knows you will put up with it because you are you need to set some ground rules and in a relationship when you stop talking it is over.

Answer 8

HE IS USING THE GAMES AS A WAY TO NOT RELATE!HE IS UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT SOMETHING.You do need to communicate better and have a compromise but you HAVE to find out what the problem is before compromise will work. Why not run errands and let him watch football and then when you are both home it is just family time-kids,mom, and dad! go to a game or play ball in the yard or park. He needs to see how much his family needs is input for them to be healthy emotionally. If you have a girl, she will get her ability to deal with boys from her dad. If she isn't getting emotional stability and uncondtional love from him, she will find it from a boy or another man.They need to be interacting daily.Your boys need to learn how to treat women better from him. You are raising adults and their furture happpiness and work and family success depends on you two's relationship! You two need to have a night out every week or two weeks for a date to bring back that lovely feeling that brought you together!Ask him why he would rather watch sports than be with you and the kids emotionally. Physically being there isn't parenting or being a husband. There has to be lots of positive interaction for your family to succeed in all ways. Best wishes! I only wish I knew back when-what I know now!

Answer 9

You're right; communication is very important in a healthy relationship. But talking TO someone is different from taking With someone. When he is engrossed in a football game, he is focused. You are attempting to interrupt that focus. The only way to do that is to learn the game, and be able to converse in the game language, which he can hear. Try to enjoy the game with him, as his family apparently does. You are acting jealously.
This is something that you are going to have to bend on dear, if you want this marriage to survive. Quit talking TO him. Talk WITH him when the game is over!

Answer 10

this is easy. you have the family asset's, so just get out of you winter clothes and do your best bedroom routines on the same scale as the football games and keep him busy, sooner or later your going to see that he don't miss the games at all or if you don't get response you want right away start edging over toward the front door hinting that your going to paint your self and stand in the front yard as an ornamental water fountain while the clothes are coming off and your headed out the front door you should see the right move are being quicker than usual.

Answer 11

You two need to talk about down time or personal time. Obviously he enjoys sports. You need to get your own down time activity and you guys need a schedule.
He helps with all of the errands and this is a major plus.
In your agreement, he should get so many hours of sports a week, and you should get equal time off doing something you enjoy. Then plan so many hours of family time and together time.
++++++++++++++++
Scheduling is the key. Now if he does not agree to making or honoring a schedule, then you have a problem.