Ok. if you have read any of my questions before, you already know a little bit about my bf. well, i spent the weekend with him and he asked me to marry him. Nobody in my family likes him because they all have misconcieved preceptions about him. they look too much at his past and not enough at how much we love each other. If i marry him, then my family is going to be very angry and half of them dotn even talk to me as it is. but if i dont marry him, then i lose him forever.. I love him with allof my being, and he loves me too.
2006-09-24 10:20:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you have to follow your heart. but also you gotta realize that your family only wants wat's best for you. And your boyfriend will have to work a little bit harder to impress your parents. That's just the way life is, and sometimes it seems unfair, but one day you'll look back and be glad that they were on you this hard.
2006-09-24 15:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by dudekunle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have read the other stuff you put up, I personally think he is playing you. The job thing is a big mystery, he is not being honest with you. You are making more money and this could be a factor for his job loss. I would stay where you were and date him a little longer before making any decisions, especially marriage. If you think you are going to lose him by saying no to the question right now then say yes but make the wed date far off like two years and this will buy you some time. Good luck.
2006-09-24 17:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK so I was going to say marry him despite what your family says because it is your life and you must move on eventually.
However I just read your other postings as suggested and I don't know about this guy. I know you love him very much but it doesn't mean that he is good for you. I had to leave my ex fiance for the same reason and I thought I would die because it hurt so bad but I'm still alive and eventually met the man of my dreams. I'm afraid that with everything you have said about him your in the same position. You must think of your future! You don't seem to trust him and vise versa with him, he fibs about his work and drinks too much. I'm sorry if everything I have said seems unfair about him but he just doesn't seem good for you. Best wishes sweet heart. Make the right decision for you.
2006-09-24 17:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by niaflower 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you need to give your family some time to accept the relationship you have chosen and know that you will learn from your own mistakes and accomplishments.Do what you need to do to be ultimately happy. If your family truly wishes the best for you they will accept your decision and just be there for you if anything happens to lend you their hand without the "I told you so's". Stop worrying about your families feelings and worry about your own and your bf's. You'll be okay.
2006-09-24 17:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
listen....its ur choice...u r the one who is gonna get married...if he is good u'll be be happy...if he is bad u r the one who is gonna pay for it....
so think about it from many sides not only love coz as u know love fades after a while even if u were romeo and juliet...first is this is the person u wanna continue the rest of ur life with him or not....is he the person u want as a father of ur cildren...can u depend on him...will he be mean in anytime...think and ur family wants ur best...
but if u decided to go ahead try to remove these bad ideas about him...!!
good luck!!
2006-09-24 17:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by Blueberry 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here is my advise. Ever hear the expression fools rush in where angels fear to tread? Take this a bit slower. Get to know this guy better and as you get to know him so will your family. In time he may prove he is a nice person to them or it may be that you see what your family is talking about. Believe me, if this guy loves you he will wait for you.
2006-09-24 17:26:59 · answer #6 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should keep in mind that the one who's marrying the guy is you, not your family. They should respect your decision; and be glad that you've found someone that really cares about you.
2006-09-24 17:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by |||°°°HeZuO°°°||| 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Blood is thicker than water....They obviously see him through real eyes and not love blindness. Keep dating until you find someone that both you and your family can appreciate.
2006-09-24 17:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by dave 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My wife's folks hated me too. My advice, don't marry him. You'll drive yourself crazy as the go-between for your husband and parents.
2006-09-24 22:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by sparky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love him then your family will have to take him who he really is... its not your fault they dont like him... but dont say no because your family doesnt like him... you will be losing a great guy that seems like he loves you alot.
2006-09-24 17:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by iloveyou (: 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋