IT's been three years and she just now decides she wants him back. They have three kids together and she is trying to guilt him into taking her back even though she treated him like crap. She knows he's happily married, but she has the nerve to send a love letter anyways. I want to just call her up and go off on her, but I know it isn't the mature way to handle it.
2006-09-24 10:15:51 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually in all reality, this is not for you to deal with. Shes not your ex nor was the letter sent directly to you, so you should not have to deal with this. This is where you let your husband handle it and trust him fully that he will deal with this as your husband. He may or may not come to you for ideas nor should you butt in with advice. In a few days just ask himif he took care of and see what happens. Now if she sends another letter, then shes open game especially after being warned. That would mean that she doesnt believe your husband and may need some "friendly" persuasion to fully understand what your husband told her. But let him handle the first one. Good luck
2006-09-24 10:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how did you find out about the letter? Did your husband tell you ? If he did I really don't think you should worry about it then. Now if you just happen to find it, maybe there might be something to question here. Like why didn't he tell you about it? And if you were snooping around and found it, then maybe the question should be can either of you be trusted?
If he told you about the letter it means he is honest with you and has nothing to hide. I'm hoping this is the case. If it is then be grateful for his honesty because he really cares about you and the relationship between you both. He doesn't want to hide anything from you at all. You have nothing to worry about because I don't think he is stupid enough to go back to being in a painful relationship again.
2006-09-24 10:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go off on her then she knows that she hit you in a good spot. Then she will feel that you are not confident about your relationship after all.Ask your husband why he did not step up to the plate and hand the letter back his ex wife with you there so that she gets the point that there are no secrets between the two of you and that he is totally devoted to you.
2006-09-24 11:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first how did your husband react when he read it? Coz that should give you your answer. If he acted like he was bothered and maybe a bit snappy with you over then you worry. If he just shrugged it off through it in the bin then you just carry on shes just a sad woman who is trying to get to you mainly but dont let it bother you thats what she has done it for. to cause arguements with you and your husband. He obisly loves you coz he married you just because he has two children with this woman doesnt mean he still feels the same thats the only thing about his past that he cant change, the rest he has and hes chosen you so dont worry!!!!!
2006-09-24 10:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by chaneluk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason for you to bring yourself down to her level at all.The question for you is,who is he married to,you or her.The reason for me asking you this is cause he is married to you and not her.The only thing you need to be doing is asking him how he feel about that letter and also talk to him and tell him how you feel about it too.Cause the only person that needs to do anything about it is your husband.He needs to send her back her letter with a letter from him telling her where to get off at.The only thing you need to do is pray for her in a good way and not in a bad way.Pray for you and your husband's marrage and not worry about it cause if you have FAITH and if you are a strong believer of GOD,you should know one thing,that you do not have anything to worry about at all.You just sit back and be the bigger and better person by letting your husband and GOD do all of the work.All you really have to do is pray about it and then let go and give the situation to GOD,cause he can handle in better than you can.When you just sit back wait and watch,then you will see what GOD can do for you.Prayers work wonders when you just pray about the situation and then leave it alone,so that GOD can do his work for you in your favor.One thing you never do in life is let any situation take over you and have you acting out like a fool and then you will be looking like a fool and feeling like a fool in the end when it is all over with.There is always a better way to handle a situation,rather than acting out on it.You can get better outcomes and looks when ever you handle things like that.That's how you can always keep on getting your blessings.Good luck and GOD BLESS.
2006-09-24 14:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by mrs.pierre3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell (warn) your husband not to communicate with her in any way. No calls, no letters. Make a copy of the letter and mail it back to her with a note from you telling her to save her energies on her ex and channel her energies finding someone new. Tell her not to be the "other woman".
2006-09-25 05:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe what she wants is important. It wouldn't do any good for you to confront her. As a matter of fact, it may just encourage her if she feels your relationship has been impacted by her actions.
The important thing is how your husband responds. Is he pouring over the letter daily, or did he throw it away? Remember, there's a reason that he's with you and not with her.
2006-09-24 10:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Stacy H 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don`t know, was he married to her, when the 2 of you got together? maybe he really still loves his wife, if so, she was his first wife, and they do have kids together, If they Love each other and have kids I think it might be best that he be with his first family, I m sorry this is not what you wanted to hear, but I go by what the Bible says, and that did come up in the bible,Haggar had child with Abraham , because abraham was married to sarah, and she was his wife, not haggar which had a son by abraham. God told Abraham, to send Haggar, and the son he had with Haggar, away, his responsability was to Sarah his wife.
2006-09-24 13:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by theladylooking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I long as you husband doesn't have the same feelings about her I'll say ignore her,she probably want to create friction in you relationship and don't fall for a game,she had her chance she blew it and that's the reason she's an ex now.but I'll keep an eye on her if I were you
2006-09-24 10:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by jolie minouche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to deal with her and tell her to grow up and not send any more letters; also tell her he's happily married now!!
Hopefully your husband will step up and stop the non-sense...she had her chance and blew it!!
2006-09-24 10:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋