up with my fiance's baby's mama calling him everyday? My fiance has a 15 year old daughter with her and she makes it her business to find something concerning their daughter to talk to him about everyday. The last time she called she wanted to know if it was okay for their daughter to go to a party. At 14 years of age I think that is something that his daughter is quite capable of asking her father herself. Should I just leave?
2006-09-24 10:15:07 · 18 answers · asked by cupcake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't tolerate it, she's 16 not 6. She can get on the phone and call her dad herself. There's really no reason for the ex to speak to him unless it's something important that the child can't communicate. Talk to him and tell him it's something you expect to change, because it makes you uncomfortable - maybe even give him a solution to the problem and be firm in the end in knowing it's not continuing.
2006-09-24 10:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by questionable 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They have a child together, and that really is nothing that will ever change. You need to just let him know how you feel. I as a divorced mother, would feel great if my ex included me in decisions such as that. Most people who are divorced just feel that our house is our house and yours is yours. That it is none of the others business. I think it is great they can talk like that. You should be happy that they can get along good enough that they can talk daily. However Just let him know how you feel and make sure that there isnt anything else happening.
2006-09-24 20:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by firemansgirl001 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you have to understand is that she is the mother of his child. They will always be connected. Sometimes children have a way of playing one parent against the other. That may be the reason for the mom calling about the party. Don't overreact.
2006-09-24 17:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by hot.sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, ex's are very idiots. They do not know what they have until they lose the one person that matters. Be smart, if you walk out the ex will have won. You have heard the saying, if I can't have she/him, no one will! So what do you think all the calls are heading. You have him now, and if you leave then what? Who will be the idiot.
2006-09-24 17:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by allensteele@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance can't stop her calling everyday, it's time to leave your fiance because it shows he can't stop communicating with her. He still wants a relationship with her.
2006-09-25 12:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 14 she should be able to speak to her father for her self, you should tell him how you feel but accept that he as a child with her but at 14 the bond between him and his ex should be over. if he can't tell his ex to stop phoning him unless it was an emergency you should consider is it worth you staying or moving on.
2006-09-24 18:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by owen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are talking about their daughter...don't get too jealous; but let him know you think it's a little excessive calling everyday!!
2006-09-24 17:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't put up with it no. It is normal for divorced/split-up parents to still communicate because of their kids, But she is 15 and is too old for them to communicate that often.
Every day sounds like she still wants him. And he should be telling her to back off a bit. Or you should.
2006-09-24 17:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Magnuna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your fiance about it iIf you feel this woman is making excuses to call him. And you're going to have to accept that they have a child together, and that "bond" will always be there..
2006-09-24 17:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by ray of sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like to me she is finding every excuse to call. i have a 15 y/o daughter with a man who is remarried and i would never think to call him unless it was something major or to iron out the details of her visitting him. she should respect you, your relationship with him and your home-no matter who she is.
2006-09-24 17:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by taurusbella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋