HELP INFORMATION OVERLOAD i really dunno what to do!!!?

Question

i have just started my gcse's and i'm getting information over load i have so much hwk and course work already and i can't cope they mostly all have the same deadline...plus my parents have taken away my stereo which is the only thing that has ever helped me concentrate when doing hwk i've got until friday to write the first 2 pages of a novel for english andd all my ideas have dried up!! i've spoken to my form tutor but she hasn't really been very helpfull and i'm so stressed out on top of all this i have to babysit my lil' 7yr old sis and do a load of chores and be in bed by 10pm i am constantly worried cuz my parents expect so much from me HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Let's see if Answer can help with one thing constructive immediately (apart from the advice!)

What is your novel about? Then we can help you with that at the very least!

Next, ask your teacher how much homework you are supposed to get for each subject, and how much time you should therefore spend each night doing it. Then you have something to show your parents - proof tends to work well with adults!

You may also realise that you are spending too long doing your homework in the first place!

Next bugbear! Sisters! Always a problem, this one! Your parents will say, 'but she's too young....'! You do not say how long you have to babysit for her. Do your parents realise that if anything happens, they are responsible? That gave me a real shock when I found out! Even if it is your grandmother who is babysitting, it is your parents' fault if something goes wrong! The only way around this is if she is with a licensed carer. Can you use that argument? (I rang the Police when I wanted my son to babysit for my daughter and asked them - which is how I found out!)

Otherwise break your homework into 15-20 minute chunks. Then spend the same with your sister. That way, she is more likely to behave while you are working. And if she can help you with the chores, it will add more time to spending time with her (well, that is the way to word it to her!). I know that sounds like pergatory but my guess is that she really looks up to you, despite how you feel about her sometimes! Of course, you can always bribe her with time on the computer playing games (such as on CBBC, etc)

Do not get angry with your parents - that will get you nowhere! However, try to sit down with them and explain calmly how you feel. If it is easier, write your feelings down. Explain how you want to help the family, that you know it is important. However, you do not want to fall behind in your school work.

Please do not lose your temper, though! If you do that, you will lose your case!

Good luck!

Answer 2

Ok first take a deep breath, sit down for a minute and calm down.

When you have a lot to do in a short space of time it is important to prioritise and break it down. Make a list of what has to be in and when. Then what you need is a diary, work out which pieces of work you need to do on which nights so you can get it all in on time. Make sure you stick to it, put a list over your desk, it can be very satisfying to cross something off a to do list when you've finished it. Quite often when you do that there's less work than you originally thought.

Talk to your parents it may be possible to put some of your chores off to the weekend or something so that they fit in better with your school work. Be honest and tell them how overwhelming you are finding it and I'm sure they'll try to help you fit everything into your schedule. Explain to them that having your stereo help you study and ask for it back. Maybe you can negotiate for it, if they took it away because it was too loud perhaps if you promise to keep it down in the future. If they took it away as a punishment maybe you could ask them to change it to something else, like no TV or something. If you're lucky they'll take pity on you if you offer them a compromise and let you off.
Don't shout at them or anything they'll be much more likely to help you out if you talk to them calmly and explain everything.

Asking a friend to help babysit is a good idea, but check with your parents first. Don't forget to take breaks when you are working otherwise you will just get stressed.

Good luck

Answer 3

DEEP BREATH
homework can seem really overbearing, and with the other things going on, it sounds like you don't know where to start.

Do you have a homework diary?? if so, plan your homework so that a little gets done everyday, so that you don't end up getting overloaded. draw up a chart with each day of the week on it and divide the time up between what you have to do (i.e. go to school, babysit etc) and see where the spare time is. then slot in your homework, but allow some time for relaxing, socialising etc.

If everything is getting too much and your form tutor is not being helpful, ask to see your head of year or the school counsellor, they can help with relaxing techniques, and planning of your work.

Don't get to the stage where you are so stressed that you can't do anything at all, and start panicking as this will get you nowhere.

Take each day as it comes, if you don't feel that you can talk to your parents, try writing them a letter, explaining the pressure you are under, but that you need their support to be a teenager - which sometimes means listening to music, relaxing, and not having too many responsibilities

Answer 4

Hiya, I think your parent should let you have your stereo back as this helps some people relax and concentrate when under stress. Also make a clear list of all the projects you need to complete this will help you to do one at a time and not feel so overwhelmed. As for your novel you will find it easier to write about something from your personal experience. It will help for you to choose a genre for your novel, such as thriller, horror, romance, comedy etc. Your story could even be about whats happening to you at the moment e.g a young girl is babysitting her little sister and is so overwhelmed with getting her school work done that she realises her sister has gone missing....
Not saying that you would do that but it's a idea that you could work on if you cant think of anything else.
Hope this helps, try not to stress about things too much, and remember if you do one thing at a time instead of trying to think about everything at once you will be able to concentrate better and do everything you need to.
Good Luck and ask for your stereo back!! :)

Answer 5

First of all DO NOT PANIC when you first start and you see all this work it can be over powering to say the least.
You need to talk to your parents on two issues first you need to tell them that listening to music helps you concentrate better and that you need your stereo back in your room. If they do not believe you then show them this reply I use music in the background to study and so does my daughter who has just done her final GCSE's and passed the lot with A's and B's.
Second you need to not only tell them but also show them the amount of work you have and ask if you can be excused some of the chores and baby sitting your sister. If they want you to do well and pass your GCSE's then they also need to understand that they have a responsibility to support you and your needs.
If this fails then ASK your parents to sit down with you and help you do your homework this just may make then see how hard it is and that you need extra support by not making you do all your chores and sit sister.
You do need to get a good nights sleep my friend so why do you not say to parent I will go to bed at 10pm however I need time to do my work it will take hours then they may relent on chores.
Try not to panic ask if their is a mentor at school you can talk too other than form tutor there should be other support systems in place to help.
Good luck with your work and you will be ok just try and get it through to your parents if they want you to do well then you need whatever it is you need.

Answer 6

Okay chill out an take some deep breaths! First of all stop looking at the whole picture of all this work and get your pad out and make a list of what you have to do and when. Then take this list to your parents and say right I need help, what is the best way to do this? Forget the stereo - I don't believe anyone can listen to a stereo and do work- you need to focus your mind, not let your mind take you to whatever the song reminds you of.
I have to say that you can do your homework, help a little and still have some quality time - this is what life is honey, we go to work, we run a house, we enjoy our kids, that's what our ancestors fought for us to be able to do, and this is your practice run. I would try and limit your chores to before you got to school - maybe make your bed, do the dishes, keep your room tidy. As for babysitting little sis, at 7 she can pretty well look after herself, so tell her to entertain herself and be quiet you are working, in exchange for a bedtime story.
Your ideas for your novel - imagine yourself in 10 years time - you are a successful whatever in the public eye, you are happily married with two kids, you have a nanny, a fantastic house, fab holidays and a great life, but you are having a fling and it's all about to explode in the papers. That'll get your English teacher interested. You start with "I dropped the phone, feeling sick to the pit of my stomach, knowing my world was about to come crashing down...."

Answer 7

If i was you i would firstly speak to my parents and ask if there is any possible way i could be let off from some of the chores and babysitting until you have caught up with your studies but you do need to explain this to your parents and also look at why you have got such a back logg it is always best to start working on studies immediatly as other wise you can end up with a big back log which will then only add more stress

Answer 8

You need to talk to your parents about how you are feeling. Write down the work you have to do at home for each day and then your parents will be able to see you dont have time to babysit etc. If they wont listen ask your tutor to have a word with them for you.

Answer 9

take it easy ... breathe
i know it's hard - i completed my gcse's in may and it was the same for me when i first started. you need to speak to your form tutor again telling her that your finding it hard and you've got loads to do she should try and help, and then try your subject tutors and explain that you have other homework and coursework as well as theirs and that you'll do your best to try and complete it in time and if that doesn't work speak to your head of year (if you have one) and she/he should speak to all your teachers for you as well.
then talk to your parents, sit them down and calmly explain that you're stressed out with work and need a bit of help with the change of going into your gcse years.
hopefully your work load should even off soon and it will be more manageable but these years will be hard and you will have to work hard but don't forget to have some fun as well and enjoy every minute because before you know it you'll be saying good bye to all your friends and teachers and embarking on the next stage of your life ...

Answer 10

You need to decide for yourself what subjects are most important to you. Then spend the most time on the most important ones so you reach those deadlines first. As long as you do as well as you can in those your parents and teachers will have to accept that you can't be expected to excell in everything. Some subjects will have to be sacrificed for the sake of your sanity.