well she dosent like me and last time my guy friend told my sisters and i that she told him that he needed to pick between ''me or her'' and now i feel weird around him but i hang out with him a lot he's like a brother to me what should i do can someone help me out plz..
2006-09-24 09:51:28 · 7 answers · asked by Mandy D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The girlfriend is clearly jealous of you. Don't act weird, the same rules apply for both sexes, friends before lovers. Well hopefully he will choose that way.
2006-09-24 09:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think unfortunately you should back off a bit. You two feel like brother and sister and have no interest in dating each other but it won't feel like that to her. Jealousy is like that, it is totally irrational unless you are the one feeling it. He doesn't want to pick between the two of you and I am sure you wouldn't either if a guy you were dating didn't want you to hang out with your buddy so much. You guys have been friends for a while but what if everyone either of you dates have problems with your friendship. You will just be two platonic friends who never date anybody because your friendship is too important. Sounds bad.
What I suggest is that you back off for a bit, let her get comfortable in their relationship and hang out with the both of them in a group of friends. It will never be the same as what you had before but if he is such a good friend you want him to be happy, right?
2006-09-24 17:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by BLANK 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She seems very jealous. I would try to include her in things you do with her boyfriend, give it your best shot. She is insecure about your relationship. Make her understand you are just friends, bring along your own date. Give them some time together. You may not like her but your friend may still want her around. Try to cause as little stress as possible. Either way your friend will be relieved for the helping hand and if it doesn't work out you'll still be friends. Don't deck her even though you may want to- lol
2006-09-24 17:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault.
1) Don't let her jeopardise your friendship with him, you know what you share as friends is strictly platonic.
2) Give him some space so he can have time to sort things out with his girl who should be his first priority. If he's neglecting his girl to hang out with his friends then he shouldn't be with her in the first place. If she's insecure for no reason, that's her problem. It's their relationship\ flaws that they have to deal with.
Regardless none of your business, stay out of it. Let him know and let him deal with his issues.
2006-09-24 17:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you may feel a bit left out but you have to understand that the relationship with your friend is platonic. Now, he wants to have a girlfriend, you need to give him sometime to get to know his girl and get close to her. You may know your friend for longer but there is someone who has gotten to know him better. Just look at it like this, there are things that she might be able to do for him that you as his friend, can't.
It hurts but as you get older you will understand that life changes, as much as you are close to someone, whether they are a boy/girlfriend when they get married or involved with someone things change.
2006-09-24 17:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should get rid of this girl if she can't handle him having female friends. I have a best guy friend who I've know since 5th grade and he straight up told all his gf's that I was like a sister to him and if they couldn't handle that we were close friends they could take a hike.
2006-09-24 16:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be a friend to your friend and give him space.
2006-09-24 16:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋