My dad has rarely been a part of my life and has never paid child support. My dad does by me gifts for my birthday and Christmas and that's essentially it. He occasionally may give me a little something (usu. under $100) if I ask him to help out with something. I see my mom is having a hard time making it as she has had in the past, but she doesn't want to do Child Support because it's too much of a hassle she thinks. I really need the extra income as does she. So I filled out the app in her name (I am mature and handle a lot of the billing in the home). Am I wrong for doing this? Am I wrong for feeling that after all these years, I still haven't been rewarded for my many accomplishements? Is it wrong for me to be mad that if he wants to buy a flat panel TV for $2000 when he feels like it over giving me $300 for a auto AC repair that cost $600 and all he does is give me a $100 and says I was ripped off when the whole damn AC was nearly replaced (the car is a model 1990)?
2006-09-24 09:51:18 · 10 answers · asked by e_xc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a dad, and I can tell you that your dad should have been supporting you forever! Not just with child support either! there is no way whatever support he is ordered to pay is enough to raise you. Hats off to your mom for all her effort!!!You are in the wrong for filling out the papers in her name though. especially if you figned (forged) her name. You can @ 17 contact the child support division of your Attorney Generals office in your state, and your dad can, and should be be forced to pay all his back child support w/ interest. It can, and will be since he's failed to pay) be taken directly out of his paycheck. He will probably be very upset, but it is his RESPONSIBILITY to take care of you!!! don't worry you seem to have a good head on your shoulders, and you know what is right & wrong. get your mom on board, and quit letting him slide on his minimum responsibilities!!! also if you are going to attend college, his child support obligation should extend until you graduate. don't forget, he helped bring you into this world, and he should help take care of you until you are ready to stand on your own.
Also, don't fall into the pattern he has modeled for you, it may someday be hard, but never forget how this feels, and make sure you take care of YOUR own family!!!
GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS!!!
2006-09-24 10:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by BIGDADDYBEN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support payments were mandated through the court system when your parents were divorced. If he hasn't paid regularly then he is in contempt and can go to jail. Gifts and what he gives you for repairs of your car are not whats involved here. Your accomplishments have nothing to do with it, neither does his TV set. Certainly your mother is entitled to the money it took to raise you. Child support goes to the mother not the child. If you forged her signature on the app, that's wrong. Call whatever legal aid society you have in your area and find out the proper way to have the court take care of this, they may for instance garnishee his wages. Its doubtful given his history he will now catch up on his own, and its not going to do much for your relationship with him. Getting caught out at not being a 'good' dad makes most of them mad as heck.
2006-09-24 17:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I know how you feel. I don't have much of a relationship with my father either and little to no child support. I thought about doing something like that a lot. However for me, my stepdad adopted me when I was 12 and part of the agreement from my biological father was we wouldn't go after him for chld support. I think what you are doing is a good idea, but does your mom know about it? You are forging her name, how does she feel about that? Also, if your dad hasn't been great about paying up until now, what make syou think that filing a report will make him start. There are so many child support recovery cases out there, that's it's hard for the system to get to them all. They usually go by the more severe cases, like with younger children and much more dier needs. I don't mean to discourage you, but I'll bet little to nothing would happen. Something I would suggest is forgetting him all together and go to work yourself. If you're graduated, there are a lot of decent jobs out there that pay pretty good. Help your mom out a little.
But honestly, I wouldn't wait for the system to do anything for you. Not to mention, he doesn't have to pay for you after you turn 18, I highly doubt the system is going to go after him for past years now.
It sucks, I know, but the best you can do now is move on and let him know that you will not be like him!!
2006-09-24 17:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually instead of filing it in behalf of your mother you should file under your name. So that when you go to court you can explain all of this. But I wouldn't get your hopes up on collecting. If he's that tight with his money and responsibilities then chances are that he will dodge the bullet when it comes his way to be forced to pay. Sometimes it's just easier to work through the struggle and know that you really didn't need him or his help after all. A fathers help should be given freely, not forced.
2006-09-24 17:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only right that your dad pays your support. He can't possibly be the man he should be otherwise. It is actually unfair to him to allow him to shirk his responsibility. Too bad he hasn't done it willingly. However, the "gifts" he has been giving you can hardly be called gifts, since he owes you so much.
2006-09-24 17:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TO BAD YOU WAITED SO LONG TO FILE FOR CHILD SUPPORT, YOU ARE ALMOST 18 AND THE LITTLE BIT HE WILL HAVE TO PAY WONT BE FOR LONG, IF YOU STAY IN SCHOOL HE WILL HAVE TO CONTINUE TO PAY, ALSO ASK FOR HIM TO PAY HALF OR ALL YOUR TUTION IF YOU GO TO COLLEGE, HOPEFULLY YOU WILL GET A GOOD JUDGE THAT WILL MAKE HIM PAY IT, GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK
2006-09-24 16:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by kemmer1029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no and your mom should have handle the matter years ago
2006-09-24 17:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by jolie minouche 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SEEMS LIKE SUCH A WASTE OF YOUR ENERGY, YES HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN PAYING ALL ALONG, BUT AT THIS POINT IT SOUNDS MORE LIKE VINDICTIVENESS.
2006-09-24 17:13:58 · answer #8 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it an good luck
2006-09-24 16:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by blackbutton100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong he should help you out more then he does.
2006-09-24 16:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋