copying with loss of Friend?

Question

I lost my best friend 3 years ago on new years day to a fatal car accident. She was also Godmother to my daugher. I found it very hard in the first year but got better coping with this tragedy, until recently when i was in the car and i saw someone that looked very much like her and ever since i hav been having dreams again and everything reminds me of her. Every minute of my life i think of her and im not saying i dont want to think about her but i feel so sad all of the time.
Is anyone going through this or been through this is so how are you coping or how did you cope?
Thankyou

Answer 1

I highly recommend therapy. Therapy is not for "crazy" people. It is an opportunity to talk to someone about your feelings to get sound & unbiased advice. You said that you dont talk about it because you dont want people to think you feel sad all the time... that is a lot of emotion that you are holding in. Doing so can really affect you mentally and physically if you do not get the appropriate help.

I dont think it is unusual what you are feeling, but therapy (if you get a good therapist) will be very benenficial to you.

Answer 2

I too lost someone I truly cared about and it happened years ago. It really hit me hard for a while too. In the begining I would see things that reminded me of my friend like a picture or song or something someone said. Eventually I managed to "forget" so to speak, and go on with my life but some things still happen to bring up those old memories. There's nothing wrong with your feelings. I think that maybe you still have a few unresolved issues you still have like not being able to say what you should have said before or not doing something before she passed. If you feel the need to talk to someone then it will be a wise thing to do. It does not have to be a Dr. but maybe to someone who knew her too and just share in the memories. Another thing that might help is lighting a candle for her and saying something from your heart to let her know how you've been and to finally say "goodbye". It does not mean you are forgetting her but just letting go of the past so you can live for the future. I hope this helpes you as it has helped me so much. Take care-

Answer 3

I would strongly suggest therapy. We go through stages of grief, but after 3 years you should be making more progress.
Good luck to you!

Answer 4

did you ever get counselling about your loss? i think it might help you. that you're dreaming of her again to me sounds as if you never really went through the entire grieving process.