I have been seing this guy for about 2 months now- Not that long. I am currently struggling from depression. I have dealt with it before and I told him I needed help again. But the other night I just had one of my breakdowns. I acted really stupid and got pretty violent. That night he sent me home in a cab. And said that he thinks that I need to deal with my problems before we can be together- cause he thinks he is not helping. He claims that he still wants me but that we should keep our relationship casual for while. I tried to keep my distance.But when I go out with my friends. he always ends up where I am. And tells me how much he wants me etc. But he is usualy a little drunk. One night he couldn't even remember having a conversation. It is so hard not to call him. I think it is better if I let him come to me......what do you think?
2006-09-24 09:42:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sorry to break it, but I think this guy wants a break from your relationship...just for a while though (not forever).
Good luck!
2006-09-24 09:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by AAAPokerJoker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-09 15:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try not to think much any more. But what I know, is that what you must have is a manic-depressive situation, right? The depressive part is generally emphasized because it is less frightening to oneself and to others.
It would seem that you would want to deal with your problem... and the focus on the Bf is perhaps another way of avoiding what needs to be addressed within yourself.
It is very difficult to find competent help today, but you can shop around, and ask around. There is surely someone in your area that has been positively helped by some professional? Check around, and don't put off what needs to be done.
Peace
2006-09-24 09:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by docjp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To heck with what *he* wants or needs or thinks. For *your* own sake, keep your distance and don't call him. If you happen to see him in public, keep it light and friendly...and don't call him.
This is the voice of experience speaking here, and I can't emphasize enough how much better you'll feel if you can just remember that in your hour of need, he wanted to end the relationship, albeit in a nonhurtful (read: ball-less wonder) way. So save yourself lots of grief and a whole lot of wear on your self esteem...don't call him, let him go, and if you see him out and he later claims he can't remember a simple conversation, be sure to let him know you don't even remember running *into* him...
2006-09-24 10:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah I think you should let him make the next move. He may want you but not your moods if you know what I mean.
2006-09-24 10:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by turtle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry,he means he wants to sleep around but use you for booty calls when he cant find anyone else.
2006-09-24 09:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by sasuke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He means bye..bye...
2006-09-24 09:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋