2006-09-24 09:41:41 · 22 answers · asked by ruthie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DIVORCE!!! and take him for whatever you can get.
Do not leave, make him leave so it will not be abandonment.
2006-09-24 10:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Seeking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You decide either to stay or leave.
If you decide to stay, then you must first accept the fact that he may continue cheating on you or he may stop now and start up again in the future.
If you decide to stay, then you should in your mind decide how much more you are willing to put up with. One way is by using a three strikes system and figuring out what constitutes another strike. I'm assuming he's on strike one, so maybe finding evidence of continued cheating would be strike two?
Keep the strike system in your mind if that's what you decide to do- don't tell him about it. It should be kept this way just in case you change your mind if and when he strikes three. Telling him and not following through with what you said you would do could make him take you less seriously in the future if you try the strike system again. Empty threats don't always work very well.
Maybe you've decided already that he gets only one more chance now that he's cheated on you. If that's the case then you should tell him once very clearly that you will not tolerate another infidelity from him. Tell him that you want him to stop immediately with the other person. For the same reasons I mentioned above, don't make threats and don't tell him what you would do if you found him cheating again. This is because you want the option to change your mind without losing credibility and respect from your husband.
If you decide to divorce him or leave him, then don't rub it in his face. It's not worth the drama. Just save some money and figure out your options. Some states have do it yourself divorce kits as long as there are no kids involved and your spouse isn't contesting it.
You also have the option to spend time away from him without divorce.
2006-09-24 14:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly get a divorce ..... my dad cheated on my mom and he denied it ( all the signs were there) they got divored when I was a baby because of him cheating and than recently he cheated on my step mom with a few girls she had proof in her hand, caught him cheating AND HE STILL DENIED IT!!!!!! If he is cheating he definitely isn't treating you with any respect. You COULD try couples therapy but for what I have seen cheaters don't usually change so I think thta leaving him his the best thing for YOU
2006-09-24 09:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by artfreak0124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It matters on the man. Some men get violent, some try to blame the woman others just pretend like its all cool. I would get a lawyer and make sure youy have a copy of the evedence in a safe place (like your mom's and dad's house or a siblings). You could even mail it to yourself so it had a date on it when you go to court. (don't open it the date is on the stamp and that way you have proof about the dates and the like.)
2006-09-24 09:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, divorce.
I mean, the two of you will probably scream and argue. He'll be upset because he got caught in his little shenanigans and you'll be upset because not only did he cheat, he lied.
It will be an emotional crisis and after wards will probably lead to a divorce.
If you're planning to confront your hubby, stay strong, and best wishes.
2006-09-24 09:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens is up to you. He is in denial. Do you want counseling? Do you want a divorce? What's there to deny, if you have the proof? At the gut level, do you believe your proof is without error?
2006-09-24 10:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "what happens?" is totally in your court dear.
Worse than cheating, he has lied. Without trust there is no relationship.
He is caught-- both lying and cheating.
Can he , will he change? Many do not. Many only improve thier cheating and lying techniques.
It is up to you to decide.
2006-09-24 10:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't leave when I confronted my ex - but now I am divorced. All I did was postpone the inevitable. Leave. He doesn't deserve you. #1 he is a cheater and #2 he is a liar! Do yourself a favor and leave now.
2006-09-24 09:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either admits it or explains it away. You need to examine why he cheated. Was it because they two of you do not communicate? Do not have a good relationship? Do not compromise with each other? Or is he just selfish?
2006-09-24 09:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? If he's denying it, it means he has no interest in trying to fix the problem.
File for divorce.
2006-09-24 10:14:19 · answer #10 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG...kick his A S S to the curb! These guys must think we have S T U P I D written all over our forehead.
2006-09-24 10:10:40 · answer #11 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋