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Part of a gay couple that has been together for 5 years. He has full custody of his daughter and I have been there pretty much since birth. She is like my own and regards me as a parent. Last night, he tells me that he isn't sexually attracted to me anymore. I told him in that case, our relationship is over, because that's a huge problem, naturally. It wasn't angry. But I don't know what to do. He doesn't want me to move away but I told him I don't know how I'm supposed to heal and move forward if I have to stay and watch him grow farther away. He already has someone else in mind from what I gathered. But his daughter...OUR daughter...I can't put her through the hurt of leaving. She already lost her mother at a young age and it was devestating being witness to the fall out from that. But how am I supposed to stay? Is it possible? I don't know what to do and we had just moved from MD to FL. I gave up my career to come down here. And three weeks later it is blowing up in my face. Help?

2006-09-24 09:29:27 · 7 answers · asked by mvk79 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Do what you think is right... i don't think you should stay because you might be there and the child be unhappy if you relationship is not in good shape... but get your life so you can do what you have to do... in other words have means if your together or apart you can stand on your own... i say leave... you can always be apart of her life if he wants you to whether your there or not... but if you have a unhappy life trying to stay with him can just lead to resentment to that girl Cuz you could end up saying.."I'd be happy if i didn't stay for you"... and thing like that.

2006-09-24 09:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by ifitaintmeidontcare 2 · 0 0

I am so sorry for your situation but no person can be in a relationship where they are not receiving the love they deserve. He is using the excuse that he is not sexually attracted to you but the truth is he has taken his love away from you. It is especially difficult to leave a relationship when there are children involved but you also want to set a good example for your children. Do you want your daughter to grow up thinking that it is okay to be with someone who doesn't love her completely. Please do what is best for your well being. Good luck.

2006-09-24 16:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by superrrmodel 4 · 0 0

Wow that is a relly bad situation but maybe you can stay there but in a house don the street or something and your daughter can switch off from house to house each week like my friend does.

2006-09-24 16:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by peace 2 · 0 0

you can't stay with him because of your daughter, you have to leave because of your daughter. if she grows up listening to the negativity which is bound to appear she will be more hurt than if you move out and visit with her on a regular basis

2006-09-24 16:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

he can't have his cake and not eat it too
move out and if he misses you enough and comes to his senses, he'll want you again...
if not, move on and find a better person, you are worth it...
keep in touch with his daughter and give her the "divorce" speech, ie., altho we're not together, i will still love yu and see you
then keep your word...

2006-09-24 16:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by casa2 3 · 0 0

i'm not sure what you should do, but i think he is incosiderate and should have talked with you a little before he just dropped the break-up bomb on you and as for his/your child i think for her sake you should stay around her as much as possible.

2006-09-24 16:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you should leave the guy but not your daughter she doesn't need the drama.

2006-09-24 16:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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